(Video) Hint of something I might bring back - Offline meeting #thatsite chronicles

Like I have said many times on Twitter, I know that some of you are 'new' to the social networking thing. Not everybody is though. Count me in that number. . This is an OLD video probably about four years ago or so...






Offline meeting..
by: carolinaware

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(Words) You are only famous because of Internet.....Big fish/small pond statements...

(Chuckles) We love to THROW THIS ONE AROUND. One minute, we are dissing cats for being 'famous for throwing a football, dunking a basketball, and the like' and the VERY NEXT MINUTE, when someone uses their 'brain' and becomes known via a tool that MOST OF US ONLY USE MARGINALLY AT BEST to become known, here comes the dissing.

Same Internet that the 'people whose fame you 'respect' use' to keep their names on the tips of folk's tongues..Make Twitter accounts and Facebook pages. Make blogs and have websites. REAL PEOPLE MIND YOU. Not that Internet. It is 'fake'. No real people exist there so we can't be talking about 'THE INTERNET'.

Same Internet that you are on trying to 'promote whatever it is you do' and put your causes, thoughts and desires out into the World. 

The same 'PARTY' THAT MOST OF YOU ARE A LATE AS HELL TO...@ the Internet. Not THAT INTERNET..




Ya'll CAN'T BE TALKING ABOUT THAT SAME INTERNET? 



The same one.. Damm if you aren't.. 

The SAME INTERNET that 'houses myths and shit you can't believe' but you use as a 'source' for any and all things 'ratcheted'. 

The same internet that you log onto from your FIFTY DOLLAR WALMART iPhone (or Android or in some cases your BB) and LOOK AT VIDEOS OF FOLKS GETTING THEIR ASS BEAT WITH GLEE. Not that Internet? No..Tell me we aren't talking about THAT INTERNET?


We talking about THE INTERNET...not 'REAL LIFE'...not 'REAL LIFE'...we are talking about THE INTERNET? - A.I.


Not the Internet that is FULL OF REAL PEOPLE, DOING REAL SEARCHES AND MAKING REAL JOKES. The same Internet that has folks 'hunched over at their cubicles to sneak peeks on Twitter and Facebook' AT WORK, or just BLATANTLY ON THE COMPANY COMPUTER, reading folks TLs. Not that Internet?


Naw..ya'll must be talking about the 'other Internet'...Because the Internet it sounds like you are talking about is chock full of fake personas, folks who really aren't what they say and at best a 1000 people who make sure the Internet as a whole stays 'poppin'. The rest of us are just 'bots. Spam if you will. Damm you got me. I'm just a fucking 'spam bot' who has been programmed to type in shit AS IT HAPPENS WITH FEELING AN EMOTION. The jig is up...-_- Just YESTERDAY, I saw someone say 'Twitter is not real'... See what I mean?





I mean it HAS TO BE THAT WAY with the way you folks say 'Oh folks just know you off the Internet..'. One big DISMISSIVE WAVE. Especially how some of the 'real' folks have started to get on the Internet and proclaim it to be fake...while....wait for it.... BEING ON THE INTERNET. The irony.... Pot out here staying 'BLACK' as usual...making fun of Kettle being 'JUST AS BLACK'. Gotta love it. 







Did it ever occur to you that MAYBE you must 'missed out' on a that person's special talent? That maybe it just wasn't meant for you to see it when it was in front of your face? Maybe that you are too blinded by what happened in the 7th grade to that person that you were NEVER GOING TO SEE THEM AS ANYMORE THAN THE PERSON WHO HAD 'XYZ' happen to them? 

Of course not because that is the way that YOU ARE USED TO BEING TREATED. Nobody ever gave YOU A SNOWBALL'S CHANCE IN HELL to be anymore than Keisha/Tony from around the way'. So why should you let anyone else 'free' of that? @ why some of you use this phrase. 


I also think that some of you are SO LOST IN YOUR OWN LITTLE 'REAL LIFE' WORLD'S THAT YOU DON'T REALIZE THE OTHER 97% OF THE WORLD'S POPULATION IS LIVING A TOTALLY DIFFERENT LIFE. You know where the 'petty shit' ya'll deem 'so important' is mere child's play. Some of the things that you and your circle of a hundred or so (I'm counting your enemies too who subscribe to your group think) have deemed 'essential life components' don't mean SHIT TO THE REST OF THE 97% OF THE WORLD. (I'm being nice with that 3% too. It is actually less than that...)  

What does THIS HAVE TO DO WITH THE POST? Everything. I've seen a WHOLE LOT OF YOU come on the Internet talking that 

'Folks like these aren't what's hot where I'm from..'. 

'I only fuck with 'real'.... (insert whatever little sayings you want'. 

That's funny 'cause I know SOME OF YOU. I won't say you haven't done 'anything' but LETS BE REAL HERE. You aren't 'running anything' where you are from either. The cats you 'fuck with'? They don't fuck with you and if they DO HAPPEN to have you 'around', it is only to use you. So lets stop that. Not only that, YOUR WORLD ISN'T THE ONLY THING 'POPPING' IN YOUR AREA. You can stop that lie too. It is the only thing YOU FUCK WITH maybe but it DAMM SURE ISN'T THE ONLY THING 'POPPING' in your area. You are no BETTER THAN THE PEOPLE that you say are 'only famous because of the Internet' as you are only 'known' to A VERY SMALL SECT OF FOLKS in YOUR OWN AREA. I use the term 'known' loosely btw. "Cause I could know you, know what you have done and not have ONE FUCKING OUNCE OF RESPECT FOR YOU. Know that. Trust me, there are cats I 'know of'. Don't give ONE FUCK ABOUT THEM OR WHAT THEY 'HAVE going on..'That ability isn't 'exclusive to folks who are stuck in their own circles' or who are 'cut from a different cloth'......







(There WAS DEFINITELY SOMETHING HERE. I'm saving it for another time. Don't worry)

On the flip, I won't act like I don't know that there is some merit to making such a statement. I also won't act like that is because I FLAT OUT DON'T LIKE THE PERSONA BEING PORTRAYED BY THAT PERSON. I don't deal with it 'offline' so I damm sure don't want it in my face 'online'. Shit is tired. Shit is old to me SO I CHOOSE NOT TO DEAL WITH IT DIRECTLY. That doesn't mean the person is 'lame for being known from the Internet' It just means that they are 'lame' in general to me. Get it? 

The 'Internet' part of the equation never factors in for me 'cause I look at this like one big OPEN RECESS. Which a lot of you don't. Especially those of you who don't know the 'behind the scenes' stuff, the statistics and the like. If you REALLY KNEW how many folks this shit reached, you'd get stage fright. For real. I see it everyday B. @ when someone I feature finds out truly how many folks come through the 'little' bit of Internet presence that I have. I'm but a vanilla bean speck in a HUGE BOWL OF ICE CREAM in Internet terms but that is still 10k folks a day. That's a lot of people man. So I'm not as 'dismissive' of 'Internet fame' as some of you are. I've seen the numbers. I know they aren't 'bots'. I've encountered or corresponded with too many 'living folks' to be THAT DISMISSIVE about it like some of you. I do UNDERSTAND however why some of you feel like you do.


Obviously, I'm not bothered 'too bad' by the idea of someone being 'known because of the Internet' as this piece is actually IN DEFENSE of 'the idea of being famous solely from the Internet'. That's because I know that despite the assholia of a good twenty or so of them, the 'general populous' of folks who have gained notoriety from it have done so by reaching ACTUAL PEOPLE. I can't dismiss that fact. Sorry. Maybe YOU CAN since you can 'categorically put them in some box of folks you wouldn't 'fuck with' anyway' but I can'. I know better. I've seen what folks ARE LOOKING AT ON THE INTERNET. From the 'trillest' nigga to the dainty chick. They look at some 'pretty lame' shit fam. Even if they just 'glance at it'. Real good folks too.




Every time I hear that phrase 'Famous from the Internet' I immediately wonder just HOW MANY FOLKS THE PERSON WHO IS SAYING THAT REALLY KNOWS? How large their knowledge base is? Do they understand that in order to be 'popular', no one needs THEIR APPROVAL? These are the things I wonder. 

I also wonder if there is a bit of jealousy involved. What I have noticed is that the person who usually makes the statement 'knows' of the person in whatever little region they live in and 'wants some of the attention they feel like they get offline' so some jealousy sets in. Mind you, when I say 'know', I really mean.. THEY HAVE HEARD SHIT ABOUT THEM FROM SOMEONE THAT THEY FUCK WITH who they 'trust'. 9/10, folks don't be around each other 24 hours a day to KNOW ENOUGH TO BE TALKING THE SHIT THEY DO BUT LETS FACE IT. People are gullible. They love 'dirt'. They love 'gossip. Men and women. So when they hear 'bad things', that is what they gravitate to. ESPECIALLY when someone is a 'threat' to something that person does. Whether it be a 'lifestyle threat', getting money or getting 'gals/dudes'. So take that into consideration when I say 'know'. I know folks who claim they 'know' someone and haven't seen 'em in fucking 10 years. How the FUCK DO YOU 'KNOW SOMEONE' IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN 'EM SINCE THE 6TH GRADE? That's niggas for for you...-_- Anyway...

Dudes....GROWN ASS MEN...start making little girly ass 'catty comments' about OTHER GROWN MEN. All in the name of 'exposing folks' over 'Internet fame'. Really? Grown men do not worry about other grown men family. Hate to break it to you. That's 'condensed soup' games right there. Sure you can have 'thoughts' and the like but a FULL OUT CAMPAIGN? Naw B..Not kosher.. At all.


The women? We won't even discuss them anymore than to say that I see folks 'airing out other folks dirty laundry that they supposedly don't care about' more than I've seen links to the latest Viddy fight on Facebook. 


I'm not jealous, I just don't like 'fake' people..-You

There is a simple solution to this. Eliminate them from your news feed and minimize your contact with them when possible.

I don't follow them on social networks, subscribe to their blogs and when at all possible, read much about them. Occasionally, their 'rhetoric' is bought to my attention though. Sometimes, (Hey the Sun shines on a dog's ass sometimes) they are RIGHT AND I GIVE THEM CREDIT. Most of the times, they are off base to me and may say my piece and let it be.
us' of that group consists of GOOD PEOPLE. Some of which had NO INTENTIONS WHATSOEVER of becoming this and they are literally going with the flow and taking it as it comes. I can't knock that. You shouldn't either.



I will say this though....


Now I know this is 'new' to some of you as you just 'got here' like I said earlier. Some of you are 'late' and that is just what it is. No need to get on here and 'knock' niggas for being on something that you thought was 'silly' 10 years ago. Take your L and keep it moving. You lunched on this one. You can't win 'em all fam. Every time you utter that phrase with that 'condescending' tone, you make YOURSELF LOOK JEALOUS AND PETTY. Especially if you just got here. 

If you have BEEN HERE and have never been one of the more 'popular' or polarizing figures over the course of your Internet adventures, take that for what it is worth. Might not be in you Champ. I think some of you KNOW THAT and therefore you don't 'seek it out'. Which is a GREAT THING. 


Those of you who are secretly 'seeking it' but are still throwing out 'Being Internet famous is lame' need to know this much though. The shit isn't all peaches and cream. Cats get called on the carpet EVERY DAY B. Constant questions. Cats pulling at you in your inbox and dms. Everybody wants something. For free. They want to know 'how you did it'. They want to be 'your friend'. THE SETUPS! Oh and of course, the dismissive waves from folks like yourself who THEN HAVE THE NERVE OR THE AUDACITY to 'put the crown on your head only to try to shoot that motherfucker off'. Still sound like fun? 

Big fish...small pond mentality. @ those of you knocking the 'Internet' part of the equation. 

If a cat is lame, he is lame. Cool. Don't knock 'the Internet' for it. Not the same Internet that MOST OF YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT AT THIS POINT and are on for most if NOT ALL OF YOUR DAY. Not the same one that is bringing you all of this entertainment. Not the same one that allows you to have ONE BIG ROLLING CONVERSATION WITH 2OOO PLUS AT THE SAME DAMM TIME. Not that the one that brings you all the lovely ladies (and for you ladies the dudes) you see on blogs like mine. 


Naw.. leave 'THAT INTERNET' alone. It isn't it's fault. If you are the 'big fish in your local pond' that is on the Internet but now you want to be the 'big fish in the big pond', you have to EARN IT. Nobody cares that you are a big deal in YOUR CITY CUH. Stop whining and get on your grind.  We are WORLD WIDE OUTCHEA. Some of us have been doing this shit for going on TWO DECADES soon. Nothing was 'handed out'. It was earned. Just like with you in your small pond. You EARNED THAT. Come EARN THIS though.  Broaden your horizons and shit. 




Don't tell me you don't 'want it' either. If you didn't, you wouldn't have Facebooks, Tumblrs, and Twitter accounts dedicated to your 'brand'. @ those of you who do have such things Clearly you want it. It is why you are out here trying to '50 Cent' your way through this. I'm just telling you that your approach is wrong. That game doesn't work too well in this setting.. 


For my 'regular' folks who don't see why, how or what the 'big deal' is about all of this 'Internet' stuff. Who truly see this as entertainment to make the day go by and who have NOTHING invested in it. Or who can't see why anyone would even BOTHER to try 'to invest their time in this'. Let me be succinct...

It. Is. Not. For. You. To. Understand. And. That. Is. Okay. Let it go. You don't like it....I mean understand it. IT is okay. Just keep clicking though... 'Cause CLEARLY you want to know. Otherwise, you wouldn't be scouring TLs or reading blogs or watching videos on the Net. 

Good day.

 

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(Picture/Social Networking) Nah...Facebook isn't out here testing a way to PAY FOR FOLKS TO SEE YOUR STATUS UPDATES?

I'm not seeing this... I am seeing this...Well...shit..If you are paying for folks to SEE YOUR STATUS updates, you BETTER BE OUT HERE GETTING MONEY. That's all I'm saying. Even then, wouldn't you want it to happen 'organically'? It MAY spike your numbers but after awhile, it will come across as contrived.

They are just 'testing it' though. It hasn't been rolled out yet....YET..Seems like that IPO status has Facebook thinking of MORE WAYS to get that bread. I think we all knew that was gonna happen though..

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(Words) So WHEN folks DO TELL YOU THEY HAVE SOMEONE & it doesn't matter to you...

You may remember this little post I did on 'Social Networking and everyone not being 'available' on it:


http://thewarehous.blogspot.com/2011/12/words-on-viewing-folks-as-available-on.html


Well, in that post, I PROMISED to touch on what happens when FOLKS DO TELL YOU THAT THEY HAVE SOMEONE and what people STILL PROCEED to talk to the person anyway. Some of you DON'T STOP after you find out. You keep drawing lines in the sand and crossing them off one by one. It is just the truth. You do. No judging you from me believe it or not for DOING IT. I'm standing over here in judgment because you won't admit it. lol Admit it. Some of you know but don't want to look bad out here. It is understandable except for the fact that there is a WHOLE LOT OF YOU OUT HERE. I would even garner a guess that you are close to the majority. It definitely isn't 30/70 out here like folks want you to believe. Nope. Not at all.


Can we stop acting AND FAKING IT OUT HERE? Just once. 'Cause the truth of the matter is this...


Unless you are just a COMPLETE IDIOT, you pretty much know the following:


A. When someone you are interested in might have someone....


B. What you are going to do when they finally tell you dependent on their 'response'... 

It is RARELY  a case of you being COMPLETELY caught off guard at the 'news' that someone has a person in their life. Whether you knowing stems from when you get to talk to to them, see them, or whatever. It is just a matter of when one of the two of you decides to stop playing games and get it out there.

Of course you may have different levels of what you are willing to 'participate in' ONCE YOU FIND OUT if you are out here ignoring signals but you aren't cutting folks off. FOH with that 'indignant' I'mma leave 'em alone after my feelings are all up in it. How do I know? It is simple.


The first time your 'senses' (especially you self proclaimed KNOW IT ALL TYPES..) tells you that they may have someone instead of fleeing what do you do? You start to come up with 'excuses' why either it isn't true or it is okay to 'continue'. Lets just tell the truth. Which in turn, is why I personally don't wanna hear the self righteous, "I would never talk to taken..." crap when I KNOW FOR A FACT 90% OF YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW WHEN SOMEONE IS TAKEN. Now let me reiterate that I don't 'CARE' who you talk to. Taken or not. I really don't. You just aren't gonna be out here shaming folks who 'do get caught up out here talking to/dealing with/seeing/flirting/texting/fucking/whatever' like you are as pure as undriven in snow, when you DO THE SAME THING. That's all I'm saying. Miss me ALL THE WAY with that shit. 

Again, I understand there are different levels of things. 

Some of you are out here looking for your 'ego' boost that you currently aren't getting from either your MAN/WOMEN or due to the lack of a 'claimable'* man or woman in your life. So you aren't going to do much but flirt and share a pic or two. Maybe a phone call is about as far as you are going. 




Some of you....just....LOOK...YOU KNOW YOURSELF. You know you are in it to win it. Once you lock in, you go on ahead and shoot your target. You just can't put down your spear. You gotta get that kill. Men and women. It isn't one particular gender so don't come at me with that. I've seen it. If you are like this and you aren't out here RUNNING at the first signs of someone being involved, you are NO BETTER THAN THE FOLKS YOU WANT TO RIP for 'getting caught'. Understand that. Some of you act like you are. You need to stop.



Oh and WHILE I AM UP HERE.. This 'Skype/Ovoo/me thing some of ya'll have going on. Yeah.. Now, EVEN IF YOU ARE CLEAR about your intentions about getting on Skype with someone, I gotta wonder about what they REALLY ARE if you are doing it from your bedroom, changing clothes in front of a nigga, skyping with your shirt off and all of that. Blurry line man. That's all I'm saying. Let me see you Skype a cat from the backyard or the Grocery Store so I know it is real or some other generic place so I know it is real. All the videos (that were leaked by some cowardly folks) seem to take place in REAL INTIMATE places..if you know what I mean... What else is one to think?

You can't get mad if someone EXPECTS MORE if you are CLAMORING TO SEE THEM IN REAL TIME via a video. You just can't. Lets stop the charade. Again..it doesn't mean they 'own you' or anything dumb like that but lets just stop acting like 'hearing and seeing them' isn't some type of stimulation and can't be confused with something else. **



*Almost everyone has some 'options' out here. It is whether or not you decide to 'claim your prizes' @ those folks that like you. Again, I'm no idiot. Unless you live in a bubble, there is always a 'someone' ALWAYS. Very few of you are TAKING TRUE HIATUSES out here between relationships/bonding experiences/fuck buddying GONE TOO FAR/ETC/ETC....So yeah. There's always someone. Never forget that.


**Unless of course it is STRICTLY BUSINESS for your WORK and MANDATED by your company. Just want to put that out there. All skyping/videoing isn't bad. Even if it isn't for work. Some of ya'll are banging under false pretenses though and you know it.

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(Video) 43 Arrested After Bragging About Murdering People On Facebook And Twitter

I have told some of you to tone it down. Do you see why now?

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(Words) On: Viewing folks as 'available' on a Social Network/The bf/gf 'bragger'. How the two begat each other...

This is how I honestly see some of you looking at your followers. Like this shit is Getadickpussy.com or some shit.

I see (and hear) from MANY MANY PEOPLE on the subject of folks either 'Tweeting/socially networking' like they are available. Many a rant. Many a tweet. Even seen a blog post or two on the subject.


"He/She is on here tweeting like they are single..." - is the most common form of the tweet usually coming from folks who have 'found out their little Twitter/Facebook crush has someone or is married.


Ditto on the subject of folks 'Talking about their significant others' too much on a social network.


 "Why does she (mostly but sometimes he) have to tweet about HIM ALL THE TIME? " - The dudes that want to fuck her basically....

I am going to attempt to 'briefly' talk about each of them as it seems you folks out here can't make up your mind/are a lil clueless or are just straight up idiots.


Being social = being available???

This is what some of you seem to be saying out here. First of all, HOW THE FUCK DOES ONE GET ON A SOCIAL NETWORK AND 'ACT SINGLE'? I mean unless we are on Match.com or some bullshit, I didn't know that ANNOUNCING TO THE WORLD THAT YOU HAVE A MATE in EVERY OTHER TWEET was mandatory out here. I didn't know that folks had to be out 'announcing' shit on THE REGULAR for a certain sect of folks who seem to think that every social setting is an opportunity to 'holler'. What kinda BULLSHIT IS THIS? I'm supposed to know you like me/are catching feelings OVER A GOOD MORNING/interaction OUT THIS BITCH? Get the fuck outta here WITH YOUR EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE ASS. If you are that easy to...Yet you are the SAME FOLKS OUT HERE SAYING 'Niggas are out here REALLY FALLING IN LOVE ON THE INTERNET THOUGH?" Yeah....Okay. Pot it is good to see you are staying 'Black' as usual...- Kettle.

I mean YOU DO REALIZE THAT THE WHOLE POINT OF BEING ON THE INTERNET IS TO INTERACT WITH FOLKS RIGHT? As in, you actually have to engage in conversation? Now I am not saying cats aren't out here flirting and shit but COTDAMM. Have some perspective about this shit and realize that sometimes, your 'Spidey senses' are off and it is YOUR FAULT. Not the other person.

Now I know that some of you think that when a person SMILES at your awkward looking ass, they are trying to holler but that is VERY HARD TO GAUGE over the Internet. People pass compliments EVERY DAY ON THIS JOINT and I would expect that you take them with 'a grain of salt'. I see that I am wrong though 'cause I have COUNTLESS NUMBER of tweets in my TL every day about someone 'tweeting like they are single'. Do better folks.




"I assumed they were single because they said nice things to me and never talked about their significant other in a good OR BAD WAY. So I just assumed they didn't have one..." - Some of you gumps out here

WRONG!!!!!- Charlie Murphy. Maybe the reason why they don't talk about their 'relationship' is because they don't WANT ANYONE IN THEIR BUSINESS. Maybe...just maybe...they have learned that the more you talk about it, the more folks fuck with it and that people can't talk about what they don't know about. You know...they don't want to give folks ammo. Have you paid attention to just how folks are out here once they find out you are in a relationship? They feel like they can (hell I comment on folks shit all the time in the 'spotlight") comment/dissect/rip apart/try to come between/embarrass folks over every single aspect of it. Why WOULD anyone want to subject themselves to such petty shit? I know I don't. Fuck that.

Or ..or...or maybe..JUST MAYBE NOW...they have figured out that the ONLY TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE TO WORRY AND DEAL WITH THE RELATIONSHIP ARE...wait for it.... THE TWO PEOPLE INVOLVED!! So they don't have to 'discuss it' with the 'World' or vent to the outside on a public forum. Or even give DAILY UPDATES ON IT...good (Oh my wife/husband/girlfiriend/boyfriend is so sweet 'cause they did....) that can be later be used against them when they give bad updates (That motherfucker...I hate when he/she does....I'm single for the night 'cause.....)


Are there some niggas out here being grimy? OF COURSE THERE ARE! That's all over though. Offline and online. Not saying that. What I am saying is that 'convicting cats' of doing so without proper context is UNWARRANTED like a motherfucker. That's what I am saying. You better start asking questions out here folks. Stop assuming. You'd be surprised what a STRAIGHT QUESTION WILL NET YOU. @ asking a woman or a man if they are 'involved with someone'. Most of the time, even if THEY LIKE YOU THEY WILL TELL YOU FROM THE GATE that they are. I can't believe I even have to type this shit to some of you. Especially those of you who proclaim you are SO SMART. -_-. I digress though.

Oh..and while I am 'up here', all of you folks who like to 'meet up with other folks' under the guise of common interest but YOU REALLY LIKE THE PERSON YOU ARE ASKING TO MEET UP WITH? Stop that shit. You are FAR WORSE THAN THE PERSON YOU SAY  'TWEETS LIKE HE/SHE IS SINGLE" At least they are being themselves. You are being dishonest. You don't want to meet because of your love of music(or whatever the activity in question is.). You want to meet because you want to see that person and your love of...(fill in the blank) I've seen MANY A PERSON GET ALL UP IN A HUFF 'CAUSE THEY MEET A PERSON AT A PLACE THAT SAID PERSON WAS GOING TO ANYWAY only to find out that person is 'taken'. Talking about 'They should have told me that..." Stop it out here. We are all adults. You are setting yourself up to fail.


Another thing that some of you fail to realize is that if YOU SEE THE CHARISMA, THE CHARM, THE WIT and like what you see in pictures, WHAT ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH MAKES YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO IS THE 'FINDER OF GOOD' IN PEOPLE? Do you HONESTLY THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS SEEN THIS? On or offline? Rule of thumb people. If  a person is a 'catch', just know that there are HANDS OUT THERE TRYING TO CATCH 'EM OR THEY HAVE PROBABLY ALREADY BEEN CAUGHT. Stop blaming folks who you are secretly pining after for not 'telling you they weren't available' when they were simply out here being the great person they are..* Which leads us into......





"I hate when (such and such) gets on line and fills my news feed/TL with all that talk about their bf/gf/husband/wife...I wish they would just stop..- You

So some of you asked for it to be 'upfront' and what do you do with that bit of information?

YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT IT. This is another one I always see in my TLs and feeds. These folks are being forthright with the info and what do YOU DO? You bash 'em for it. Can't make up your minds can you?

I would assume that I don't have to 'spell it out' why this takes place now that I have explained the FIRST ISSUE but some of you are dense so here I go.

I feel like the MAIN REASON (there may be others but I am not covering those today) is for the FOLKS I JUST DESCRIBED UP ABOVE. They are effectively cutting people off at the pass. Shit gets tiring as fuck (Which is why I never did/do it) and you sound like a broken record but the point is made. Allegedly:

Come this way because you think I look nice or I am nice and someone is there. You've been warned. 

I know...I know..They may be doing this because there may be some (gasp) insecurities in their relationship as well as nowadays BOTH PARTIES are on the same network. Which is THEIR BUSINESS btw. No relationship is perfect...** It isn't my relationship and I happen to know for a fact theirs is no more perfect than the rest of 'em out here. (Shrugs)

Some folks are appeasing their spouse which again, is their business** @ why they make these proclamations.

Hell, some folks ACTUALLY LIKE THEIR FUCKING SPOUSE AND ARE TELLING THE TRUTH. Just because you 'hate' that fool you chose doesn't mean it applies to everyone. Ever think of that? Anybody in any type of REAL COMMITTED relationship knows better than to put its contents all the way out there. You may ALWAYS love that person but there are some days that you don't 'like them at all' and that is okay. Putting it out there play by play though is NOT THE MOVE and they don't do that. That's just common sense. Who wants to have 'Just the other day you said you would do anything for your baby now it is 'Fuck her'" thrown back in their face? Not anyone with any type of common sense so you DON'T PUT EITHER ONE OF THEM OUT THERE TO BE SEEN. You keep it to yourself or your TRUSTED FOLKS. Not the whole Internet.

Some folks don't get on Twitter and Facebook to BE HARASSED DAILY by 'hollers' so they use it to fend them off FOR THEMSELVES. That's right. Some folks actually don't like the attention or know that NO GOOD CAN COME FROM IT.  Some folks are out here fighting the 'good fight' and it is the only way they know how to fight it.***

So you see, despite the fact that you think they are 'trying to annoy you and everyone else', folks usually do have a reason for doing this. Some of those reasons are caused by people LIKE YOURSELF. On both sides of the fence.


Now I am willing to bet that some of you had not drawn the parallels of the two sides of these two issues because you never stopped to think about the 'why' or the 'cause' of them. I personally think BOTH WAYS OF THINKING ARE PRETTY STUPID. I mean unless a person is out here asking you OUT on dates and shit, I don't see how one can LOGIC LEAP THAT FAR. I don't see how this could be 'so upsetting' that I would have to tweet about it, day in and day out. That's your OWN FAULT IMO. ****  Get a clue. Get a life. Keep it moving. Shit.

One shouldn't have to change being an outgoing and engaging person because you 'might end up liking them' in that way. FOH. Control your hormones PEOPLE dammit. Or deal with whatever comes with it when you find out their situation is 'different' than you had it made up to be in that pretty lil head of yours.***** Some folks aren't out here trying to broadcast their day to day relationship status JUST IN CASE you might wanna holler. 

I will say this though. Some of you people who pride yourself in being 'so smart' need to get a FUCKING CLUE. The context clues are there. You are either really stupid OR YOU DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM. (My money is on the latter actually...Easier to say 'He/she didn't come out and say it so it is THEIR FAULT....Sure you're right..- Barry White..) If you TRULY ARE CLUELESS then like I said..Smarten up Nas. I mean folks give you JUST ENOUGH TO LET YOU KNOW THERE IS SOMEONE IN THEIR LIFE even when it is not their 'job' to do it. Trust me. 


It is because of folks like YOURSELF that you (and the rest of us) have to ENDURE the relentless 'My bf/gf/wife/husband this....my (insert title) that...'....They feel like THEY HAVE TO DO IT less they be made out to be some 'monster who is out here leading folks on' and shit. They have probably been 'guilted' into talking about them just to have some fashion all the time for simply....well...just being themselves. Now if that isn't some bullshit to have to do...I don't know what is. 





Remember this please the next time you see that 'nice looking person' in their avi who always tweets/facebook's you back in the morning. Sometimes, it is just that. Them speaking and you responding. Please social network responsibly out here folks...





*If and when you do tell them though....More on that in another post. At another time.. 




**You folks slay me with not wanting to talk about 'what isn't perfect' in a relationship either like INSECURITY isn't the BIGGEST ONE. What the fuck you think folks are talking about? Leaving toilet seats up and cabinets open as being the 'biggest issues'? Issues are things like 'bad money management', infidelity, trust issues, insecurities, low self esteem, lack of communication, stubbornness, not compromising and shit like that. I hear all of you out here saying you 'wouldn't deal with shit like that' which is COOL BUT LETS KEEP IT FUNKY. These (and many more) are THE ISSUES that make relationships not perfect. Not..I like Jay-Z and she likes Nas..." Fuck on with that Joni Loves Chachi bullshit... @ petty ass problems.

*** They will learn that in time, if someone is going to approach them that no amount of preemptive ground work is going to persuade that person not to. It is life. Some folks are determined. The key is having the person you are with realize that too. lol 'Cause it can be hell if they don't or if they are in denial about the folks who approach them on the daily (even though they do 'nothing to provoke it'. )

****Which is funny considering there is an article making its way around 'Black Twitter' today about 'emotionally unavailable folks' and I blame them for it. Funny in an ironic way I can admit. I see this as being 'different' 'cause there is TRULY NO EFFORT BEING MADE BY THE PERSON BEING PURSUED. It is all a stretch by the person who is interested.


***** Lets keep it FUNKY ONCE AGAIN. If you like the person, you are GOING TO DEAL WITH 'WHATEVER IT IS YOU FIND OUT' AND IF YOU AREN'T THEN THERE IS NO HARM NO FOUL. Either way, life goes on. Either you find out they have someone and you are gonna stick around to see what it is (like COUNTLESS NUMBER OF PEOPLE HAVE DONE SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME) OR you are gonna say 'Fuck it...NEXT PERSON'. That's all there is to it.

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Funny but interesting video on Spotify and Turntable.fm........

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Ha ha!- Jeezy I love it when cats do these captions. Google + vs. Facebook...

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(Words) Wanting your Cake and being able to eat it too: Women posting pictures on the Net then complaining...

Courtesy of Mew Tew!

 


 BLOGGER NOTE: I have 'updated this post' Hopefully, I caught all the grammatical errors this time. I added some things so if you 'read it before', it might be worth the 're-read'. Kinda updated it to the current social media platforms if you will.






So I guess I have to be the bad guy. It isn't me ruining your rep. It is you. You take/post the pictures.


Not me. You say 'Follow me', reblog my photos, Titty Tuesday, Thong Thursday, 'Look at me..LOOK AT ME..", "This is me on a regular day.." "My hair is not done but LOOK AT HOW CUTE I AM ANYWAY...'.  Not me.


Some of you gals need to make up your minds outchea. You want to pick and choose how you want to get the attention? FOH.  You ASKED FOR THIS SHIT. There, I said it. No one else wants to but I will. You asked for it. Do you deserve to just get out and out shitted on? NO and I don't shit on ANYONE I put up here. That doesn't mean that you don't hold some accountability for things. Actually most of it. You are taking the pictures.You ARE POSTING THE PICTURES UP.


Folks that act like sites like these are 'ruining' their rep need to look in the mirror to some extent if THEY ARE OUT HERE PUTTING 400 OR SO PICTURES OF THEMSELVES ON THE SAME INTERNET. From that LiveJournal shit to the 'new' LiveJournal as I call it called Tumblr. No one is hacking into your computer. No one is stealing your laptop.You are out here putting ALL OF THESE PICTURES of yourself out here on your own sites and they float from there. 

I shouldn't say folks because quite honestly, as much as I don't like doing this, it is the females. Yes, I said it. I am talking to ya'll on this one. Well, the ones that do what I am about to describe. I am talking to you for two reasons..

A. I don't post pictures up of dudes in that manner so I wouldn't be coming from that angle...

B. I have NEVER heard a dude complain about his picture being put up anywhere on the Net unless it was done in a ridiculing fashion. NEVER. If a dude takes a picture of himself in a flattering fashion and females wanna gawk, he is ELATED AND TELLS EVERYONE. He took the pictures for that response much like a female only HE OWNS UP TO THAT. If that response isn't what he wants, he disses those that diss him, tells 'em 'You liked it 'cause you 'featured me' and leaves it at that.  That I have seen happen.

The ladies? Eh...Not so much. For some reason, beyond the fact that it isn't a crime to get a camera and take all the flicks you want of yourself and do as you please, the ladies seem to 'forget' the 'other side of the coin' with this one. No, I am NOT TALKING ABOUT THE LADIES THAT TAKE PICTURES FOR THEIR MAN AT THE TIME AND HE LEAKS 'EM. Or even for some 'random' cat and he leaks them. That is a WHOLE OTHER DISCUSSION AND IS NOT TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. I am talking about the girls that LOVE TO TAKE PICTURES and use sites like the now deserted MySpace or Tumblr (Instagram!) to do it. Or put up their 'TwitPics' for the World to see but want to get 'upset' when someone puts it on their domain. Even/especially when the folks who put it up on their sites GIVE THEM CREDIT, direct traffic towards them and are HELPING their cause. I'm not talking slander here. I am talking good old fashion 'Look at her doing thing.." promotion. It is baffling to me. 

Again, it isn't taking the pictures that bothers me. BELIEVE ME. We ALL TAKE PICTURES. It isn't even them having a page. Have at it. It is YOUR PAGE. It is the fact that folks think that the 'minute' a picture leaves THEIR PAGE that anymore 'damage' is being done to them than they have already caused themselves. Please. You caused the initial damage. Just because your 'followers' are 'yucking it up with you' and saying they like it doesn't mean they aren't out there using it for evil. @ the image.TRUST ME. I've had MANY OF YOUR 'FOLLOWERS' give me shit that I KNOW you didn't intend for 'public consumption' AFTER THEY HAVE GOTTEN TO KNOW YOU BY COMPLIMENTING YOU ON THE PICTURES YOU DO HAVE FOR PUBLIC CONSUMPTION. Believe G, if I wanted TO BE GRIMY OUT HERE, I could be on that Oscar the Grouch. Straight Trash Can Life. Filthy and grimy. Again, it isn't ME.. (Or sites like mine...)


Do you gals NOT REALIZE THAT MTV SPONSORS SHIT like Tumblr? That you can google your Tumblr name and the WHOLE WORLD CAN COME TO YOUR SHIT? As in, if you USE YOUR GOVERNMENT NAME, your lil nickname or whatever, it comes up? Attached to your pictures? This shit isn't a secret. Put a tracker on your Tumblr if you don't believe me. What EXACTLY do you dumb asses think is happening when someone 'reblogs' your photo? Do you think that if there is 'no note' or a reblog that no one is looking at it? That no one copied and pasted it? Wroooooooooonnnnnnnnng- Charlie Murphy. 

You fucking idiot, ONCE YOU PUT IT ON A SITE LIKE THAT, EVEN WITH YOUR LIL WATERMARK ON IT, people can and will take it and spread the word if they think it looks nice. Sometimes notifying you. Sometimes not. All at their own discretion and without your say or control. Do you NOT realize that? Are you THAT DAMM STUPID? If you don't want folks potentially doing things with your photo EVEN POSITIVELY THEN THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS NOT TO POST THEM ON THE INTERNET YOURSELF.

Folks come to Tumblr/blog ALL THE TIME that don't 'follow me' or don't live ANYWHERE NEAR ME. Some folks come to my Tumblr who DO FOLLOW ME AND DON'T KNOW IT IS MINE! I mean I know TONS OF FOLKS BUT NOT AS MANY THAT COME TO MY BLOG OR TUMBLR. All 'cause the typed in the name associated (that I associated with it on PURPOSE). People can get at you via 5th person.  I get the funny feeling that some of you still think that you can actually 'hide' on TUMBLR, do your little freak shit with YOUR FACE IN THE PICTURES and no one will know the wiser. Smarten up Nas.

I am not coming down on your for taking the pictures themselves though. You think you are the only 'thrill seeker' in the World? You think you are the only one with 'self esteem issues' who needs a boost? With a stash of photos that will put that Amber Rose shit to shame OR WITH A STASH OF REGULAR PICTURES THAT COULD FILL A WHOLE YEAR'S WORTH OF MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS? Nope. The difference is though that MOST FOLKS HAVE ENOUGH SENSE NOT TO PUT THE SHIT ON THE INTERNET 'cause they know that the other bullshit that comes with it isn't worth the hassle. Your peoples think you are pretty? COOL. Let them look at you in real life. You have self esteem issues? If you are going to use the Internet to boost it you better understand that you can't CONTROL THIS SHIT in the manner you are trying to do. Especially if IT ISN'T A ONE TIME THING and you are over there updating pictures DAILY yourself. Yeah...yeah..yeah..its your life. It is. Don't blame the rest of the World for YOUR CHOICES THOUGH when you do bone headed shit like put a shitload of pictures up on a public site and someone decides to give you the 'shine you claim you are looking for'.





You know until I actually DID THIS SHIT here, I didn't understand FULLY why someone would diss someone for asking to have their picture removed. I mean, IT IS THEIR PICTURE right? I STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND DISSING THEM if it is clear that the person didn't know the picture was taken, the picture was given to someone else and they forwarded it and shit got outta hand, etc, etc ,etc. However, if you are one of these GALS OUT HERE with a Tumblr account or a Twitter out here taking 500 SHOTS OF YOURSELF on a non private page, while understand they are your pictures, what do you REALLY THINK YOU ARE GAINING BY TELLING FOLKS NOT PUT UP YOUR PICTURES? In particular when they attach YOUR NAME TO THE POST AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU KNOW THAT THEY PUT YOUR PICTURES UP? I mean, maybe your initial reaction to someone 'taking your pictures' (Yet they made sure you would see that the pictures were up on their site AND they put your name to it.) is to start taking heads off. Okay cool. I would hope though, for as much as many of you claim you aren't just 'ass and titties' that you could SEE THAT YOU ARE PRETTY MUCH DOING JUST AS MUCH DAMAGE TO YOUR REPUTATION YOURSELF by even creating your own little site. That is if you see being put on 'any other website other than your own' as 'damage'. If you don't see it as damage then..to put it bluntly....


You are about the stupidest (insert your favorite derogatory word here) walking the face of the Earth then... If you want the publicity, if you want the fame, if you want folks to notice you then WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT? I mean if you want the attention of a 'particular' young man then I might suggest you send HIM THE PICTURES of you in that state. Not plaster them all over the Net. Not 'reblog them' for all of your followers to see over and over again. Oh, you want him to see you as 'desirable', is that it? That's why you want that? Well tough shit then if the folks that you are 'using' to get what you want use you back. (Shrugs) That's how the World works. Welcome to it Princess.

Oh and for those of you who do want the fame but want to 'do it big' this is for you. Playboy isn't walking through that door cotdammit. Smooth Magazine isn't coming to your town looking for you. Elle SURELY isn't going to come snatch your 5'4 ass up when you look like ALL THE REST OF THE GIRLS WITH MAC MAKEUP ON. There is only ONE Onika MAN. (According to some, one too many but I digress...) If you want the fame, you gotta take what comes with it.

If you don't want the fame then the question begs. JUST WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU GOING AROUND POSTING PICTURES OF YOURSELF ON THE NET HALF ASS NAKED FOR? Don't you have a mirror? Is that boyfriend thatYOU DON'T WANT TO FIND ALL OF YOUR PICTURES not giving you enough attention? Is he not enough? 

Oh wait, you do it 'for yourself' don't you? Man get ALL THE WAY THE FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT. That is the biggest crock of bullshit known to man that ya'll (Yes, I said ya'll...) come at people with when you are doing something that you know has a positive and negative effect. 

If you don't want people taking your pictures off your little sites but you still want to take pictures AND HAVE EVERYONE SEE YOU THEN YOU ARE GONNA HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE OR THREE. Sure you can take pictures of yourself ALL YOU WANT. You need to understand though that once you click that 'send' button on your lil Macbook or whatever you are out here sending that on, you are running the risk of someone is gonna see it. Period. It doesn't make it ANY BETTER IF THEY SEE IT ON YOUR SITE or somewhere like here so quit trying to justify 'where they may see it'. 

Furthermore, if your name is attached to it and you are ASHAMED OF THE SHIT YOU ARE DOING, then don't do it. Stop posting pictures. Clearly, you shouldn't be doing it for WHATEVER REASON.  Some of you out here don't know whether you even want to 'claim' the pictures you took but you 'want credit' at the same time. Doesn't work like that. 






For all of you 'feminists' reading this: 


Before you come 'knocking' on my door, understand that I am not saying folks should be treated bad. You need to re-read what I wrote up there. I just told the truth. There is good and bad in posting up pictures of yourself on the Internet and that 'straddling the fence' with the shit is JUST AS DANGEROUS than full out doing it. Probably even more so because of the mixed message. I think you should be able to understand that doing things in this fashion is 'mismanagement' of their 'voice' no? If you can't understand that, oh well. Just like dudes have the right to do WHATEVER THEY WANT but they have to deal with the consequences you ladies do too. Sorry. This isn't street hollering or getting grabbed in the club. Looking and touching are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS. Especially in this case when the person 'offended' PUT THE MATERIAL UP TO BE SEEN.

Damm, I didn't want to come out and say that shit. Clearly though, I needed to. I don't expect change either. I know that somewhere, some young lady is posting pictures of herself RIGHT NOW FOR THE ATTENTION and that some time later on it will spiral out of control and get bigger than she intended for it to and she will take it out on the wrong person.

Hopefully ONE YOUNG (or older lady 'cause they are out here in these Internet streets making these choices too. I see 'em..) LADY WILL READ THIS AND SAY. "Not me! I won't post any more pictures up unless that is my INTENT and unless I am FULLY PREPARED for what comes with doing that..."

I guess it sounds like I am saying LADIES SHOULDN'T POST UP PICTURES OF THEMSELVES ON THE NET huh? Or even 'sexy ones'. Nope and if you got that OUT OF THIS PIECE THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU WANTED TO HEAR. Just like ANYTHING ELSE IN THE WORLD, there is a WAY THAT YOU CAN DO IT AND STILL CARRY YOURSELF WELL.

What I am saying is probably what ANY RESPONSIBLE ADULT should have told either you as a youth. Understand the consequences and actions of the things that you do. Don't play both sides of the fence with an issue and play dumb and coy. When you put TONS OF PICTURES OF YOURSELF UP ON THE NET scantily clad, scream out 'follow me', or caption your pictures with words that YOU KNOW ARE GOING TO EVOKE A RESPONSE THAT WILL BOOST YOUR EGO, understand the attention you are going to get. Period. You aren't special to the point that you are exempt from it and if you think that you are then you MIGHT NOT WANT TO POST THE PICTURES. Period.




I thought I was done with this post but I am not...My bad.


The 'underaged- 21 girls': 

If you are out here posting pictures of yourself trying to get attention yet, getting mad at 'certain dudes' looking at your pictures, dealing with stalkers and don't know how to handle ALL THAT COMES WITH GETTING ATTENTION FROM BEING ATTRACTIVE IT means one thing and one thing only. 

YOU SHOULDN'T BE OUT HERE POSTING PICTURES. If you are underage, you LEGALLY shouldn't be out here posting pictures. Period. There is a reason it is illegal. It is was deemed that someone of your age COULDN'T HANDLE the consequences of decisions with good judgment. This is the SHIT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT. You can't handle it. Stop doing it. The stories that get back to me (via retweets and reblogs) are INSANE.

I block EVERY ONE YA'LL underage joints too. Every time. I am the cat that is running around reporting you on EVERY SITE I interact on and if I even THINK that you are underage, I will preemptively block you from Twitter, Facebook and from viewing the blog/Tumblr. Period. I don't want to see YOU just as much as you don't 'supposedly' want me to see you. DO US BOTH A FAVOR. Stop posting them fucking pictures. You are a child but clearly no one was stern enough with you. I will do that for you. Fuck off. I don't want no parts of your tart ass even VISUALLY. If you get pissed reading this and want no parts of me guess what? THAT'S WHAT I WANT. FUCK OFF. If you are reading this on ANY OF MY MEDIA SITES and are underage, UNFOLLOW ME RIGHT NOW. (If you are a dude and you are mad about this statement, NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO SPEAK UP. Especially if you are one of those cats that like to 'clown'. Don't be the next contestant on that Summer Jam Screen....- Jay-Z. I see a lot of you like To Catch A Predator. Don't make me say why....)

If you are that 'legal' age broad (whatever the legal age is where you live/or in the 'too cute stage'.........ya know... 22-27ish..) who seems to think you can 'pick and choose' who looks at your pictures or who can 'compliment', get over yourself. What is your REAL LIFE LIKE? 

Are you the dumb broad who shows up' in 'stripper shoes' and the tight dress' to the 'Grown Folks party' then leaves mad 'cause everyone without a date hit on you? 

Are you THAT GIRL? The girl who is still out here showing her bra strap and panty lines but can't figure out why folks are staring at you? Talking about 'Its just a bra strap or panties...Never seen 'em before?" Are you that girl?


 Let me find out you are that gal who wants all the 'folks who aren't worthy of looking at you' to buy you the bar and then be dismissive of them when it comes to giving them a 'shot'...lol. Let me find out. Bitch please. You might wanna take in consideration that it isn't them. It is you.. Don't really want much to do with you either if you are on that wish washy shit as far as the blog is concerned. The World is not your 'simp'. You better stop 'reading your own press'.

Go learn to wipe your ass good before you come talking about what you 'know' or who shouldn't be looking at you. 99% of you have peaked lookwise and DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. One Twinkie and a child away from being 'extra normal' out this bitch. In particular if you don't take care of yourself and are out here in these streets coasting on 'natural' attributes.  Take the compliments while you can. They are gonna stop soon and only be said when a cat is trying to be 'the next one to..' Take it from the cat who is 'old enough to be know. I've seen some of your mothers. Your clock is TICKING. Tick. Tick. Motherfucking tick.


Oh now before I go, ('Cause I am assuming someone will forward this to their folks and it will be their first time here...) let me address the 'comeback' to all that I am saying.

The amount of woman on this VERY BLOG: 

Yes there are woman ALL OVER THIS BLOG. All over it. Will be today. Will be tomorrow. The difference though? The ones that 'remain' on here ( I pull all the ones who fit the bill I just described in this post off ASAP..) is that they have 'decided' that's how they get down. They have embraced it. They are OF LEGAL AGE. Their spouse/SO knows of what they do and either likes it or doesn't or they are single and have no one to answer to. More importantly though, they know HOW TO HANDLE THE ATTENTION. They don't put up with 'negative' attention either. Nope. They handle that just fine too. They have decided what to they want to do and are doing it to the fullest. 

Some ARE NOT in it for that big check. 

Some take the ego boost, go on with their REGULAR LIVES and keep it moving. Its called being a grown woman. 

Some are actually in that last age bracket I posted up too so if anyone in that bracket (legal- 23ish) thinks I mean to say you can't handle your business you are WRONG. I merely spoke on those in that age bracket who can't. 

The ladies on the blog KNOW THEY ARE HERE. This shit isn't some 'secret' 'cause everything about here is out in the open. From the contact info for them to the contact info for me. I won't get 'talkative' 'cause merely because you asked me to pull your pictures from the blog if you do so. 

I will get 'talkative' if EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO ON YOUR OWN SITES screams the total opposite of what you 'claim you are trying to do' and you basically accuse me (or truthfully anyone else who runs anything like this in a nice way) of trying to do you harm by putting pictures up that you have already put up yourself.  

As I alluded to up top, I can't do any more harm to you than you are doing to yourself when you post those pictures initially. In addition, JUST HOW DO YOU THINK FOLKS ARE GOING TO GET TO YOUR SITE? Telepathy? I mean if you TELL THE EXISTING FANS YOU HAVE ABOUT YOUR 'SITE' THAT IS ALL FINE AND DANDY BUT IT ALSO WON'T DO BUT SO MUCH GOOD. So ANY PRESS from a source outside of you would DRIVE MORE TRAFFIC TO YOU. They would then put your name in Google. If you have a site, BOOM, it comes up. Then they go to it. Trust me, JUST BECAUSE someone comes to your SITE doesn't mean they stop looking for information on you. I know. I run one. Folks come here looking for folks and their exit link is usually one that indicates that their search on the person, subject, whatever isn't done. 


Example: If I put up say 5 candids of Yaris Nya Santana, the person looks at what I have put up...searches MY SITE FOR MORE FLICKS and then exits out out of the site BACK TO GOOGLE by typing in 'Candid pictures of Yaris Nya Santana' or some shit like that. See how that works? Clearly some of you don't know how this works 'cause THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT. Folks searching for your name. Hell that is how 75% of the folks reach MY SITE. Name searches. 


In other words sweetheart, I'm here to help. Not hurt. Do I get something out of it? Yep. The flip to that is site's like mine are at NO COST TO YOU minus the 'content'. Content you've already been paid for to give. Now I know you have your 'web designer' and your 'marketing team' telling you that you want 'all the information in one place'. That's not necessarily true. You could have a BEAUTIFUL site but if there is only one or two outlets that are 'putting your name out there', it may take you A LONG TIME to reach your goal, IF YOU EVEN REACH IT. How will people know about you? How will they know that you even exist? Think of it as 'free cross promotion'. 

You don't know how many times I've put a young lady up here, SEEN THE IP ADDRESSES OF THE DUDES THAT OWN THE MAGAZINES COME TO MY SITE and the next thing you know, THEY ARE FEATURED IN THE MAGAZINE. Yeah, I see ya'll. I have you marked. That digital magazine in Philly that runs a 'Dynasty'? They come here. That 'Khalifa'? They come here too. Mixed Magazine? You see the video below in the corner....(With reason right now..lol) They all have come here scouting to see who is 'hot on the Internet' right now. AS THEY SHOULD. That's how it works. I'm not mad. I know the game. I put someone else who then in turn PUTS ME ON. That's how people KEEP COMING BACK TO THE SITE. Then they may be able to see THE OTHER CONTENT. I have to get them here first though. Somehow. This is how. Your mentality should be the same if you are taking these pictures to 'gain something from it' and you need to understand that your Twitter (or now your Instagram), Tumblr or whatever NEW MEDIA OUTLET isn't the only way to do it. Hell, I don't know why half of you even HAVE A SITE 'cause the same thing ALWAYS seems to happen. You find out you are paying someone to maintain a site to put up information that you could have put up FOR FREE if you are hot enough in these streets. Then the site quietly goes away. 'Cause lets face it, most of you aren't going to be in your forums interacting with your fans or taking COMPLETELY NUDE EXCLUSIVES like that which is what it takes to keep a site LIKE THAT GOING. Little video updates and four pictures of your latest photo shoot isn't going to cover the cost of you having the site. It just isn't. Merchandise? Maybe. If you finesse it right. @ having that there. So that's where I (or sites like these) come into play. So use us. It would behoove you too.

 Lets clear up this 'stealing pictures thing':

I am not 'stealing' the pictures, as stealing would imply you get no credit, you get no notification, or that I claim them as mine and I make no way of you contacting me to have them removed. Period. That would be the definition of 'stealing them'. If I wanted to 'take them', I DAMM SURE WOULDN'T BE FEEDING THE BLOG TO TWITTER OR FACEBOOK WITH YOUR NAMES IN 'EM. I wouldn't want you to see the posts so why would I LET YOU KNOW I DID THEM? I know sites that DO STEAL PICTURES and they make sure that while they give your name, you aren't DIRECTLY CONTACTED. Hell, I know some that don't even GIVE YOUR NAME. Just have you up there as 'their nameless talent that they have discovered'. Now THAT I COULD SEE YOU BEING UPSET ABOUT. That is the DEFINITION OF STEALING AND NO CREDIT GIVEN. Watermarking up your shit with THEIR LOGO and not giving your name? Yeah..be upset about THAT SHIT. Not what I am doing over here....


I see that some of you HAVE had some really bad experiences with the Net. I understand that. I truly do. Hence why I made the information available to contact me. You might wanna do better yourself though. @ how you are on here acting. How about you just stop posting pictures then if it is that bad? How hard would that be? Think about it..

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Dear 'known' person on the Internet/in the streets/etc/etc/etc............

Before you fix your font to say it, I am NOT KNOWN on the Internet. Not by a long shot. I know it. You know it. Stop it. Having said that, don't think for ONE SECOND that me being 'not known' is where this is coming from. I wouldn't want ANY OF THAT BULLSHIT that comes with that. Oh the good? Sure would. The bad? Fuck. That. I have lowkey problems RIGHT NOW AS AN UNKNOWN. I have had a glimpse of what it is like to have 'attackers' from everywhere. Of having to buy into that bullshit belief that 'haters' (or anything hate filled) will make one stronger. None for me thanks. 

 Now that we got that outta the way....let me carry on with this open letter. It will be brief too. Don't worry. 

I want to address the fact that some of you seem to forget, don't know or don't realize that you aren't the only ones with these 'brilliant' ideals, theories, thoughts and feelings. People say them every day. Some of these people actually are amongst your fans. Then again, I guess I have to lump some of your 'fans' into this letter too, as they are the ones who usually 'bring it to your attention' that someone is 'biting' your ideas. Here is a 'newsflash' for you though....


IT IS VERY HARD TO RESONATE/AGREE/BE ON THE SAME PAGE WITH 10 PEOPLE, NEVER MIND FIVE THOUSAND PLUS PEOPLE WITHOUT SHARING THE SAME IDEALS AND PRINCIPLES. 

Okay you say? Well if it is okay then WHY IN THE FUCK DO YOU (AND YOUR 'FANS') INSIST THAT ON THOSE CAPTAIN OBVIOUS SITUATIONS that someone is 'stealing your thunder'? Hell, I will take it further. Even on the 'complicated' situations? I mean, do you REALLY THINK FOR ONE SECOND THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WITH THE MENTAL CAPACITY TO COME UP WITH THE CONCLUSION THAT YOU AND YOUR IDOL HAVE? Surely you don't think that do you? 

Yet, I have seen some of you 'call out' folks for simple shit like 'calling someone a chump' based on their reaction to an event, THEN TURN AROUND AND want to see if you are shares the same thought that ABOUT THE SAME EVENT? Are you THAT CONCEITED champ? Really? You need everyone to 'run to you' for their opinion now? You are the only 'one' who feels that way? You are the sole provider of opinions that are righteous and valid now? FOH. As for you 'fans' of these people, all I can say is shame on you. The fact that you think that your favorite lil radio personality/twitter guru, Facebook guru/lead dog in your pack girl/dude is the only one that 'can rant/bitch and moan about certain things in a 'certain light' is downright pitiful. Do you know HOW MANY MOTHERFUCKERS WERE ON THAT SHIT BEFORE YOUR 'FAVORITE' WAS ON IT? Do you research. You might even find out that your 'favorite' is STEALING from one of those that came before them and is preying on your ignorance and the knowledge that you won't go do the research to see it. Kinda like the comedians that ya'll give props to who are (under the guise of paying homage since they don't NAME DROP WHOSE MATERIAL THEY ARE USING) USING OLD JOKES WITH 2000 SLANG IN 'EM and got you fools hoodwinked. 

Stop running up on niggas with this 'I have my own lane' shit as a whole. Why? 'cause you are contradicting yourself when you TURN RIGHT BACK AROUND and ask 'Does anyone feel me?" That's why. Clearly you aren't the only one thinking this way. 

Oh and one more thing in regards to the 'rants'....


Some of you think you are REALLY FUCKING SLICK, going in on mofos for ranting while.....

wait for it..

it is coming...


WHILE FUCKING RANTING YOUR OWN HEADS OFF. Stop that reverse psychology. I see you. Dissing others for ranting, all the while your ass is RANTING OFF ABOUT EVERYTHING BUT AIR. That is that bullshit right there and some of you DUMB MOTHERFUCKERS ON THE SIDELINES ARE JUST AS STUPID FOR 'CHEERING 'EM ON' WHEN THEY DO IT. Like somebody died and made he/she boss and the sole heir to ' hoemotional the rant' and that SOMEHOW THEM ADMITTING IT IS HOEMOTIONAL AND THEM OWNING IT MAKES IT ANY LESS HOEMOTIONAL. Get. The. Fuck. Outta. Here. With. That. Pompous. Bullshit. There ya'll go with that third grade shit again. Picking and choosing. Yet you want to complain that 'The World isn't nothing but a popularity contest and it isn't fair...'. Yet here you are...succumbing to the rules. How cutting edge of you...


Same hoemotional rants that your 'idols' give, you niggas get to clowning folks over when they do it. Are you that dense? Really? Get up off your KNEES PEOPLE. Shit. Your favorite nigga/niggette isn't the only one with those thoughts or has EXPRESSED THOSE SAME THOUGHTS. (Yeah..your answer was '...but they express 'em though...' wasn't it? I know. Sorry. Nice try tho..) Nobody needs your 'favorite' to tell them how to think, what to listen to or HOW TO REMEMBER THE SAME FUCKING TIME PERIOD THAT THEY GREW UP IN TOO. That includes ME. @ the telling or being the 'reminder'.


So yeah...you...up 'there'. Yes you..Mr./Mrs. 'Known Person On the Internet/in the Streets/etc/etc/etc....Stop that shit. Be glad someone relates to your weird ass, as most of you like to wax on about @ that 'weird/semi quasi cool' childhood you had that was so rough that yet you miraculously became cooler than a fan and unclownable through over the years to ascend to your present throne of overseer of all that is wack, unjust, and just FLAT OUT WRONG WITH THE WORLD*

*All things that you did PERSONALLY by your OWN ADMISSION in some cases might I add. Which again I question 'cause you (and only you it seems) managed to come out unscathed....How the FUCK YOU DID THAT yet say in the same breath that others can NEVER OVERCOME THEIR MISTAKES (in your eyes anyway) IS BEYOND ME BUT I GUESS THAT IS FOR ANOTHER OPEN LETTER... Funny how fickle we get when we get a 'little power' isn't it?






 

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On: Remembering just because a person can rap, model, or is a known 'talent'...

it doesn't make them 'talented' as people.

Had to remind MYSELF of this a lot more recently. Take my own advice. Let me not be cryptic. Since this isn't Twitter, where I had to take 140 words at a time to get my point across. I am talking about the interaction that I have with some of the folks that I feature here AND some of the interactions OTHERS HAVE HAD WITH THE SAME TYPE OF FOLKS. In particular folks that I don't 'know' personally' but only 'know' via a chance meeting or the Internet. Those that I know, have contact info on, have broken bread with, etc, etc, etc....I am NOT TALKING ABOUT THEM. If you fall into that category and I had an issue with you, I woulda hit you up via G-Chat, email, came to your house, the phone, etc. by now. I actually tweeted on the subject....albeit in a vac um as that pretty personal.

The tweets are down at the bottom of the page....All of them...I have a couple of things to say to those 'talented' people....Just a few..If you know me, you know it is gonna to the point....

The VERY SHORT VERSION OF THIS IS:

"Who knew thanking a person, complimenting them ON THEIR CRAFT, would be a 'bad idea' and get a tweet 'taken back'? Guess I know now huh? Maybe I should just be a 'hater' like everyone else and find the flaws? Naw...Just stop expecting them to have common sense & let 'em know about themselves..." 

But I don't do short versions here....Walk with me..

Look man, nobody...AND I MEAN NOBODY OVER HERE is swinging from YOUR NUTS or YOUR CLIT. Period. You make MUSIC CUZ, look good, take pictures, or whatever it is you do. Music about shit that quite honestly, I have ALREADY BEEN THROUGH. Pictures of gals I have seen that DEFINITELY have equals. So I while I can 'connect' with it, you aren't TEACHING ME SHIT. All of those revelations about 'life, the game, bitches, and a corrupt government' you talk about? I came to those A LONG TIME AGO. All that railing on about God, his goodness, and the like? Yeah..I actually PAID ATTENTION IN BIBLE SCHOOL IN THE SUMMER. I know it and if I wanted to seek 'salvation', I don't need it via a book. If I wanted to talk to a 'gangster' or a hustler, I would talk to my OWN FAMILY MEMBERS..(Shoutout to my cousin who JUST GOT OUTTA JAIL OFFA 10 YEAR wop in North Carolina...Did his time in the cell and wasn't no tell..) I don't NEED A RAPPER, A POET, A SINGER, A MODEL OR ANY OF THAT OTHER SHIT to look up to. I'm my own fucking role model. I DAMM sure don't need your @ on Twitter to 'validate' what I tweeted. It wasn't gossip. It was YOUR PRODUCT.

So if you felt like I 'groupie'd you' on your time line by PAYING YOU A COMPLIMENT ON YOUR WORK, you need to be checked for that. That is PURE BULLSHIT. You said some nice words, wrote a hot song, painted a nice picture, took a nice picture, got something that I like or something for me to do it for sure and the TRAFFIC HERE IS REVENUE.  BUT LETS NOT FUCKING ACT LIKE YOU ARE OUT HERE CURING CANCER MY NIGS & NIGGETS....Lets not act like you are Tony Montana...Skinny Joey Merlino....of the actual Teflon Don. You play that shit in your songs and YOU MIGHT (I said might) have done some shit in the past but it is NOT YOUR EVERYDAY. 'Cause if it was as the white boy told Benzino, "You should be out somewhere KILLING SOMEBODY RIGHT NOW.." You aren't out here bringing down a bad government a la Egypt.  Lets not get so far ahead of yourself that you can't take a compliment. I know 'shots' get fired at you 'cause of what you do and I get that but that is not what I am here for and nothing I have EVER done was close to that on here. If I want to take 'shots' I take 'em direct & there would be no 'guess' in it.

Now I have some 'friends' in this business so I DEFINITELY understand that you can't 'respond' to every one. So I APPRECIATE that you RT'd what I said. So much so that I make sure I speak again.  That doesn't mean that if you DO RESPOND to me I am just supposed to act like it is cool you put up a tweet and then took it down. I want to name names but I AM NOT 100% SURE THEY RUN THEIR OWN ACCOUNTS. When I see one of them this June, that is the FIRST question I will be asking them. So I will give that benefit of the doubt that it is someone running it who doesn't have the proper media training. I am promoting YOUR ARTIST. Essentially RISK FREE outta your pocket (I get paid but not by them...). How could you SCREW THAT SHIT UP? That is...if they aren't being ran by the artist. Hell, if they ARE BEING RAN BY THE ARTIST...How could you screw up free promotion..If it weren't for 'free promotion', I don't care at WHAT LEVEL YOU ARE ON, you wouldn't be where you are. Period. You'd still be doing whatever it is you are saying you 'aren't doing in your videos to keep the law offa you. Do you treat all your supporters that way? Or just the ones you don't wanna fuck?

Reason #2 why I won't give the names. I gave free promotion, got a thank you and then basically a 'Fuck you' by it being taken back. Fuck I look like GIVING IT AGAIN IF IT ISN'T APPRECIATED...Fuck I look like giving it again? Which is the REAL reason I am writing about this. You thank me but when I say something back, rather than just NOT RESPONDING back to whatever 'positive' thing I said, you ERASE THE TWEET? Really? Wow...just wow...

Its a 'tweet' Mr. Blogger. Calm down- You.

Nope. I won't...Here is why...Mr. Artist. If you did it to me, you have done it before. How many fans do you think that you will have if you continue to do things in that fashion? Even to the 'hood niggas' that want to rob you and could give less than two shits about you 'have your back'. Or better still when you aren't 'on top' anymore and you want to 'come back'..if you ever make it on top.


Crazy thing is I actually BUY THEIR MUSIC. Or did. Oh, I will download it first but I actually MAKE PURCHASES. You know....That show up on the 'labels' bottom lines. That help you secure 'deals' and distribution..If you are an Independent, that is 'STRAIGHT CASH HOMIE' (Randy Moss voice) ..You know the 'accounting side of it'. So EVEN IF I 'bothered' you on the timeline 'cause you thought I was a 'girl' (That has REALLY HAPPENED YA'LL. No bullshit..) it was the WRONG THING TO DO to someone who understands that you are in to MAKE MONEY & be seen. Never again will I 'BUY' any of your stuff. Concerts? I have press credentials so I won't have to worry about 'paying for that EITHER'. Appearances at clubs on Queens Chapel Road? If it isn't free..naw...Your new book? I will have it in a file before you get to get that first SIGNED COPY to your cousin back in Tidewater and won't have paid a cent. Welcome to the new age consumer. Where we are actually your biggest promoters and supporters and the backlash is HEAVY.
I got a good mind to tuck this story 'till the time is RIGHT 'cause I know that the people who have acted like this WILL DO IT AGAIN. Hopefully they will actually be 'relevant' when it happens...lol  It is their 'true self' showing. All the rest of that shit is a facade. I forgot. My bad. Won't do it again. Which is a shame too because now that 'right to be an asshole' 'cause you don't owe me shit attitude you have as you are reading this (or if you are taking their side of it) is the SAME ONE I WILL HAVE IF I CAN CAPITALIZE OFF OF IT. Which isn't my 'nature'. So I will address it here and let it DIE.

On artist/people on the Net (Twitter in particular) who only respond when you totally 'stan out'/want to be sweated/only talk to girls (males) ..Especially on Twitter-

Look...again.  I like your work. I may even think you are attractive or that my viewers might like you. So! WHAT! I am not going to 'stan out' over that shit. Take the post AS THE COMPLIMENT and if I give more then so be it. If not, oh well. Don't come expecting me to come talking to you like 'Babyface' for a fucking RT. No. I refuse. So all of you who don't Retweet because I haven't 'done that yet', wait on it. I see you retweeting the shit outta things that sound like lyrics outta bad simpin' R&B song and I am not talking about 'Baby you bad either' or 'Your song is dope..' Those statements are fine. I am talking about that 'drink your bathwater'  ' You are better than (insert hottest rapper out) now. You are not the first pretty girl I have ever been around. You SURELY aren't the first DJ I have ever known, nor radio personality (Hey distant cousin Tara..) I have ever known. You are not the first pro football player I have known, the first nigga with the keys to 'nigga city' that can get me into anywhere I want for free or any of the other titles you can think of. I am good my nig. Trust me. So I am NOT gonna sweat you all out on my Twitter timeline. If I HAPPEN to think you are the best & have verbalized it, so be it. Not gonna say it so you can '@' me back though. Sorry. Respect is earned and some of you think I (and everyone else) should just give it to you 'cause you make the niggas in your hood go crazy with your special brand of 'bullshit'. No. While there is only 'one' you, ON THE SURFACE there are A MILLION OF 'YOU'...if you understand what I am saying...I prove that EVERYDAY. Everyday I post a DIFFERENT bad broad, different DOPE MC, different dope photographer, a DIFFERENT up and coming athlete...a different dude who would just as soon shoot you than breath the same air as you 'cause he thinks he is that special.....you get the picture. There are a MILLION YOUS out there vying for attention. Don't fuck it up by being an ass about whatever it is you do...Be confident for sure but not an ass....Don't take no shit but don't go around giving it out..

If you are one of these artists that only likes it when 'girls' @ them, MAKE THAT SHIT KNOWN IN YOUR PROFILE. I am not Ms. Cleo nigga! I don't KNOW THAT. Here I am thinking that maybe...JUST MAYBE..you are on Twitter to interact with those that support your craft. Not to pick up ass. No, we don't need to have a twenty tweet convo either. I get that. Lets not act like I am supposed to know when you wanna talk either. I don't know you....remember?? For all of that, JUST DON'T SPEAK at all. That would be better than that shit...



Hope you hopefuls are taking notes. You may not 'owe anyone shit' because you 'do what you do' but remember that shit goes both ways. People don't owe you a pass just because you 'do what you do'. Some of those people might have a voice.

1. Hell even if you ARE KNOWN, plenty of other places to get known. about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   fuck makes you think I won't DO IT TO YOU? about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   And won't ever breath your name on blog again. I already have one popular rapper I do that with now. So if you are 'unknown' to the masses.. about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   You don't want me to blog your shit? PLEASE SAY SO. I will stop YESTERDAY... about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   'Cause of that. That's why. The kicker is, those posts aren't the 'popular' ones..lmao. That's the kicker. So whose really losing? about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   I am addressing the DMs I get about 'Why so many females?' Why don't you support this/that/and third? You wanna know why? about 2 hours ago via TweetDeck

1. Maybe I'll just keep to responding to the ladies...and if you RT what I put up on the blog so be it....Fuck it. about 3 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   DON'T GET THE BIG HEAD THIS BITCH MAN. For real.. about 3 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   Behind the entourages and shit, when we are face to face, SHIT DOESN'T GET SAID. I met a couple of ya'll. It is all chuckles and shit. about 3 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   That is TWICE that a rapper has deleted a tweet. Didn't say anything outta the way. Didn't say 'put me on' or no shit like that. about 3 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   I get the sense that if you SPEAK to a dude on here about their work too much, they get to feeling some kinda way. Which is stupid. about 3 hours ago via TweetDeck
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   If you follow this account and wonder why I only talk to the females, look no further than the very few MALE tweet responses I have back  

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