(Grown Folks Talk) I had to get one of my 'hers' the help that 'She' needed..

Of course, by now, you know the backstory so I'm gonna jump right into it.

"You know that you and the kids are gonna need to talk to someone..." - You

"......." - Me


Reason for the dots? I was there. I kinda know the situation was pretty fucked up seeing as though I am SMACK DAB IN THE MIDDLE OF IT. *shrugs* 

I mean it isn't as if we lost our dog. Or our goldfish. Or that our house burnt down. Not that those things wouldn't hurt... 

We lost a mother. A wife. Life partner. Influential woman to young ladies who will become women. Road dawg. Sounding board. Etc..etc...etc... 

So yeah, when I saw that one of my 'hers' needed some 'attention' above and beyond that which I could provide, I got her that 'help'. I mean she was already talking (as they all were) to someone at school but I saw some things that said she needed more. You see, BEFORE HER MOTHER DIED, my health issues kinda got to her. So she began to fear losing me LONG BEFORE her mother passed. She chose other ways to cope. A cut here. A nick there. Always hidden from sight per say. 

Then her mother died......

Yeah.... 

Not. Good....


Sure we saw the band aids but she's a kid so yeah.. Thank God for the parenting rule of 'Take your little sister with you/there shouldn't be anything you are doing that she can't be present for' that is in place. 6 year old did her JOB. What some of you common niggas refer to as 'snitching'. She saved her sister. Proud of her. Sometimes, SOMEONE HAS TO TELL. Ya feel me?

So yeah.. I had to do the SECOND HARDEST THING I EVER HAD TO DO. I had to let my child go get help WITHOUT ME being there. I saw her every day. Sometimes twice after I gave her space to adapt. 

THE LONGEST TWO WEEKS EVER.. Didn't tell many folks. Bad enough that folks are gawking at us anyway. More ammo.. More shit to yap about. So we just handled it. Like the Gs that we are. Yes I said that. My kids and I are Gs out here. Soldiers belly crawling through this. One inch at a time. That's all we know. Is to keep going. They are soldiers just like their Momma was... 

She is 'fine' now. Bubbly Middle Child that I honestly haven't seen in a long time. She never 'stopped talking' so that wasn't the issue. She now takes her moments is all. She has other ways to cope. She grew up a lot in those two weeks. She saw some things I honestly wish she never HAD but I THINK IT WAS GOOD FOR HER. She saw that others are hurting too. She saw what happens when you DON'T GET HELP. When you do ignore the signs. When someone doesn't answer your cries for help. Not that she didn't GET THAT MESSAGE from her Mother's passing. This just showed the middle of the story to her. 

I had to go get one of my 'hers' the help that 'she' didn't get.....I couldn't drop the ball. I couldn't ignore it. Sure, I could have yelled at her about knives and scared the piss outta her. 

She would have just found something else to ease the pain. Another way. Who knows WHAT THAT COULD HAVE TURNED INTO.. We see enough examples of what folks turn to. I don't want her to know who 'Molly' is man. Fuck that. So off I took her.... To get some help.  

No finger pointing btw. Real spit. I wasn't there. @ my 'she'. I didn't live in Brooklyn. In Queens. I only know the transitioning girl child that became a woman... I only know that when I 'got her', she was hurting and that she needed it then but I couldn't 'make' her go. Only suggest. Implore. I do know that she could have used what my lil girl got AS A LITTLE GIRL. I do know that IT WILL BE DONE FOR ANYONE IN MY HOUSEHOLD NOW. That's what I do know.... I'm not of the adage that mental health care is for the weak. Or that 'we don't do that'. I know too many of 'us' that have taken their own lives to believe that foolishness. 

So for those of you concerned that I may not 'do right by them' and get them the help they need, you are too late. 

I've ten steps ahead of you. Trust me. 


My outbursts on Facebook. 

Many of you aren't privy to those honestly so this one might be a little bit confusing. Just follow along anyway though. It is pretty self explanatory.


The 'outbursts' that you see on Facebook usually don't bleed over to here or Twitter 'cause I've decided to concentrate them where the folks who I am talking about WILL SEE THEM. 

Why there? 

'Cause that is where they are pulling their info from. Where they 'see me'. It is the ONLY place they really see me honestly so that is where I choose to address it. For some of you, it is baffling. Probably a bit too much for you. Rest assured that like most things with me, you are only getting 5%. The issues I address there, usually get addressed BY ALL PARTIES INVOLVED fairly quickly and much more civilly than they get presented. No worries. Sometimes, you have to say what you have to say. Feel me? I usually say what I have to say and I'm pretty much DONE with the angst part of the issue when I push send. Much like  I am when I type stuff here. So y'all can stop worrying. 

Oh and if I REALLY WANTED YOU TO KNOW WHO I WAS TALKING ABOUT, I'd include them in the post. I don't for several reasons. I can forgive them. I know some of you can't. So I choose to keep it the way I do. 

Random thought:

I'm not sure what you guys are expecting of Justin Timberlake (or Hov for that matter on that Kendrick Lamar remix) but I fail to see the problem. Both are banging to me. Then again, some of you need the radio to tell you what is hot so yeah...I know for a fact that Jane is somewhere dancing her tail off to this joint.. That was our boy.. @ JT.. Okay... random thought over. 

Now where was I? Oh yeah... I was addressing me addressing folks on Facebook. That goes for here too actually. 

Speaking of that, I am single. :) We are gonna get into that a bit right now...Briefly. Vaguely. I know y'all wanna know. Dammit, you talk about me 'not being ready' all the time so that is how I know... Speaking of which..... 

Everybody is looking for the flyest thing to say... But I just wanna fly away.. with you....- You Know Who... *




Here's what I hear the most...


"I know you aren't ready for a relationship but I just want to know that whenever it is you might be that I need to know that...." 

Holy promissory note Batman!! - ME. 

(Looks into the camera) I don't really have to say much more do I? @ giving details. 

I don't mind bids being put in. I SWEAR I DON'T. 

Do. Not. Do. That. Though. 

Double talking. At its finest. 

Do I feel like I am saying too much about this? Naw.. If you follow me on Instagram, you can kinda see different things..lol Life is a secret but it isn't THAT MUCH of one in that aspect. If you are reading this and you know you probably fall under what I am talking about..... You HAD TO KNOW that this probably would make it here.. This is my outlet. Sorry. 

I'm gonna be REALLY CLEAR ABOUT ONE THING. She doesn't pass away, there is none of this. Period. Y'all probably need to RECOGNIZE THAT. Period. 

It is just a part of Life though. Only I know where I am with that reconciliation process. @ being married, moving like I am still married and if and when I can move on. If I can actually 'love someone' ANYWHERE NEAR THE level that I did with her. Or if I even want to. I knew where my relationship stood, what I was trying to deny that I was being prepped for and all of that good stuff. I would 'explain' that last statement but some of you would just flat out NEVER GET IT. So yeah.... In English, I probably know what I am ready for WAY MORE THAN ANY OF YOU WILL EVER REALLY KNOW. Degree'd up or not.... 

Here is a word of advice from the dude that is going through it to those of you who want a 'shot' though... 

Don't tell me what I'm ready for...

Don't try to make me promise shit. 

She's grown B. Raised you. Remember that.. You are grown. Try and remember that too. Do what you feel..I am. 

Don't expect me to forget her. (Have you seen my middle daughter? Yeah.. Good luck with that one.... lmao.. Nevuary 5th, Ain't Gonna Happen... @ forget..) Shit, have you seen HER as in have you seen JANE? Yeah.. not gonna forget that anytime soon... 

Let me grieve. 

Let me live. I'm not really about that 'answer to folks' life. Sorry. 

Let me do me..

I'm probably gonna keep posting stuff about HER. Long long...LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNGGGGGGGG PROCESSSSSSSSSSS...... Nothing you can do about that. If you don't like it, eh... God Bless.... 

Understand if I do choose to spend time with you, you must be doing something right. Don't overthink it... 

The girls. Love 'em. They are first. Second and third. So whatever I do, know already THAT I'VE TAKEN CARE OF THEM. Don't worry about 'having to say you don't come before that.." I KNOW THAT. :) You just make sure YOU REMEMBER THAT? Aight.. 

Time. 

Comprende? 

Yeah..I had to put it in writing. 'Cause...yeah... 

If I DO COME AT YOU OR LET YOU COME AT ME, I'm not chasing. I don't have time for one and for two.. yeah... that's not my style.. Never has been. We can chase each other but that other shit? Naw... 

Is that what you came here for? @ what I just typed out. A lot of you follow the blog at this point so I'm pretty sure your eyes are BULGING out of your heads right now. Oh you thought the blunt honesty was an 'act' huh? Nope. This is me. *shrugs* 

Enjoy that. I probably won't do THAT too often. Today though, I felt like it. So there it is. Besides, I have so many folks 'coming at me' that me saying that is PRETTY MUCH NECESSARY. No braggo. It is just the facts. I'm human folks. Sorry. 

To the Aunties. Bear and Brooklyn. Thank y'all. The objectivity that most claimed NEITHER ONE OF YOU HAD but I always thought you did is VERY CLEAR AND EVIDENT. Thank you for that. Truly. :) This is why I don't listen to what folks have to say about other people and I take the time to find out myself. 

My other two children:

My oldest has taken the personal note that my wife to her to HEART. She is flourishing right in front of me. So proud of her. 

My youngest is expressing herself DAILY. She is a LOT LIKE ME. She has her own 'blog' in the form of a notebook and she writes two to three stories a day about how she feels. Never the same thing twice. She is dealing with it in her own way.. She 'bout broke your boy's heart the other day though...


"Our family had five people in it and now we are minus one. We have four people now... I wish I didn't know how to subtract now..." - The Six Year Old....


I. Almost. Lost. It. It took everything in me to get her to school and drop her off without crying. 

After I dropped her off....

Yeah... She was so accepting of it and that is what kinda hurt me the most. 

The fact that she has to be. That it is just the truth of the matter. I think she is fine by the way. She's cried. She's drawn sad pictures. I just see so much of ME IN HER that it is scary. @ accepting and dealing. 

It is just a tough deal to watch my little angel deal with it. 

108/78.... @ my blood pressure (Umm..my top number was on that 150 ish this time last year so yeah.. bottom number was hovering around 99ish and above..) . Don't know HOW THAT IS HAPPENING OTHER THAN TO THANK GOD and to keep on exercising and letting things out in places like this blog here. So feelings hurt or not, I let them out. Sometimes, I push publish, sometimes I don't.. 

R.I.P. to my Daddy's good friend Nathaniel Simmons. Fellow Armed Forces man. One of my mentors as well. Definitely all man. All the time. My heart goes out to my boy Scottie Simmons. He is THE ONLY ONE LEFT IN HIS IMMEDIATE FAMILY. Momma gone too soon almost 20 years ago. Brother died not too long after.. Now his Daddy is gone. Strong brother though. My prayers are with you my dude! Truly. I'll play the background and if you need me, get at me. 

This is SO HARD Y'ALL. I usually don't end on that note but...It is. Super hard. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. Even with the move, there are things that can't be changed. Erased. That is going well btw. Love the home. Kids love the home. It is ours. Which feels good. 

It. Is. Bittersweet. Though. She should be here. Decorating this joint with me. Hanging pictures with me. Enjoying my 'big room' with me. Working in the corner. Enough space for both us.... Ugh.... I'm probably officially 'mad at her' for this in some ways. Still doesn't mean that I'm gonna tolerate or wanna hear that you are though. All that 'that is selfish' talk will still get you the 'look' from me. We all know it was. We all ALSO KNOW WHY and you can't gloss over that. Or you shouldn't. Tread lightly.... @ talking that way around me. 

Aight...the youngest needs to be awaken or I will be here typing all day. 

*Justin Timberlake.. Spaceship Coupe...

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(Words/Grown Folks Talk) The slut shaming phrase 'What will her (future) kids think?" X Apes of Wrath Syndrome

Pretty sure you have heard someone sling this mud before. I know I have seen it tossed around like a firecracker anytime someone wants to make a woman 'feel small' about a picture being taken, a dress being worn or even 'activities being performed' that have 'leaked out'. Rarely, if EVER is the phrase used for a man unless we are talking that 'fake Mafia World shit that some of you think you live in'. Nope. It is usually reserved for women AND the shaming of the VERY ACTIVITIES THAT YOU CATS OUR HERE CLAIM YOU WANT TO 'SEE'. Not sure how that works out logically for you but here are some examples...



Send or take a nude for your boyfriend and he gets into his 'feelings' and leaks it? 

What will her kids think.....- You


Have a good ass time down Miami and make some nigga's WHOLE VACATION by being the fantasy fuck and leave it where it is should be gal... ON VACATION?

What will her kids think..- You

Tell some dude that she thinks he is attractive on the Internet..


What will her kids think- You


Hell that last one happened but it went a step further. Kid said something about 'That's my Momma' and all types of niggas started pontificating about 'How they would be and how their World would be shattered if that was their Momma'. Oh the lameness. 



So now every time a woman does something SHE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS TO THINK OF THE HER 'FUTURE KIDS'? How Neanderthalesque of you. You must have corns on your hands. Really? SO you get to RUN AROUND WITH NO FUCKS GIVEN ABOUT WHAT YOUR 'FUTURE KIDS WOULD THINK' WITH YOUR HAPPY ASS WHILE everyone else has to 'watch it'? Man FOH with all of that. You get to 'hope and pray' that your kids understand while she is 'dammed to Hell'? Really? 




Let me break it down for you kiddies one time. You do realize that once you become a parent you 'don't stop living' right? That there will be FAR MORE EMBARRASSING THINGS to your child then some 'rumor of nudity' or even an ACTUAL PICTURE that they may NEVER SEE? You guys are acting like you are 'superstars' or some shit and someone is going to come 'running up on the kid' with that shit. Even if they DID, any level headed kid, which clearly most of you weren't when you were younger, wouldn't care about that shit. They are embarrassed by their parents JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE THEIR PARENTS. There isn't any more ammo needed. If a kid 'loves his Momma', he LOVES HER. He isn't going to 'stop loving' her behind some shit she did twenty years ago... Maybe YOUR LAME ASS MIGHT jump off a bridge. That's you and your unloyal ass..(But ya'll niggas talk about loyalty and shit..I digress though..) Not anyone who TRULY LOVES THEIR MOMMA and has any COMMON SENSE. I mean you have to come to grips that your Momma was fucking PRETTY EARLY IN THE GAME ANYWAY once you figure out that The Stork didn't just drop your ass off in the front lawn. 










Shit lets just say you ARE FAMOUS. So what? You see Vanessa Williams kids? They LOVE THEIR MOMMA. Period. You think Lourdes (Madonna's kid) gives four fucks about what niggas got to say about her Momma? Nope. Not a one. More on why later... Here's a hint...'Your opinion has no bearing on their lives..."



Just because your emotionally fragile ass can't 'handle Life's truths' doesn't mean everyone else can't. Ya'll are some of the SOFTEST TOUGHEST MINDED PEOPLE I KNOW. One minute you are 'I'm a soldier and I can handle ALL OF LIFE'S UP AND DOWNS....' AND the very next minute you are Cottonelle out here. Single roll. Tearing up like tissue over what are the FACTS OF LIFE. Say it with me REAL SLOW...


Your mother knows what a penis looks like. She has felt one before. She has taken flicks, put on a fuck 'em dress, flirted with, did things to make shit happen using her sexuality and ENJOYED IT, and done all of the things you want your 'current and future' female companions to do. (Or as a woman, you want to to do for you females out there that this applies to.) She has these things called FEELINGS and they didn't get sucked out when they took the placenta out from when your sorry ass came up outta her vagina. Get over yourselves. The same thing applies to ANY WOMAN who can and will have kids. Been going on since the beginning of times. Long before you and your 'baby feelings' about the topic developed.





You cats need to make up your mind. How is it that you can 'handle some things like a G' but when it comes to this shit, you are soft as baby shit? You are cold hearted and a snake with the best of 'em but this little bit of action makes you tendercuts? Man please... Oh and lets not get started on those of you who felt that you were 'picked on as a child' who employ this tactic of slut shaming... For WHATEVER REASON YOU FELT YOU GOT PICKED ON...



You are the same 'kids' that would try to  use that knowledge as a defense mechanism to deflect from the BULLSHIT you got going on in your life UNPROVOKED as a child. I see you have bought grade school to adulthood with you. Good job. Talking about you 'care'. You don't care. FOH champ. 


Some of you really do SUFFER FROM Apes of Wrath syndrome. The way you think makes me think that you believe the 'stork delivered you'. Which in turn, you think allows you to stand in judgement of  every other women who does ANYTHING remotely 'dirty' in your mind. 'Cause you have somehow, resolved it in that delusional head of yours that it is okay to be that way about the subject. Then there is THAT PESKY FACT THAT YOU WANT TO SEE THEM DO ALL THE DIRTY THINGS THEY DO while still standing in judgment. You are no better than those GOP cats that voted against equal pay for woman. You'd probably be the type of cat to tell a woman to go 'get a job making as much as I can' knowing you have made it so SHE CAN'T DO IT due to the bullshit. That's the type of cat you are if you think this shit is 'okay'...Yet you don't like it when cats 'set you up to fail' like that. @ wanting one thing and then condemning folks for it when they do it.


As I always say on here, I can't WAIT for the day that you find out your Momma, your favorite Auntie or whatever woman you hold NEAR AND DEAR to your heart breaks your lil fragile ego up with the revelation that she too has 'taken some risque photos'. That she too, knows the touch of your Father's best friend IN WAYS THAT MAKE YOU WANT TO NOT KISS HER EVER AGAIN.  I wonder if that will send you into a reclusive hole never to be seen again? @ it changing your 'whole World'. Knowing that without her, you wouldn't be shit but now your ideals have you conflicted saying 'she isn't shit'. Questioning your whole shit. **

I wish I could be there for EACH AND EVERY UNVEILING OF THOSE PRECIOUS MOMENTS THAT SOME OF YOU ONLY THINK ARE RESERVED FOR SOME 'SMUCK WHO ISN'T CUT FROM THE SAME CLOTH AS YOU..'


I would love to see that devastation that would be you finding out that the 'little quiet meek girl' you thought you 'chose' 'cause neither you or your 'pimp these hoes' friends had never hit before kinda has a little reputation for having that 'fire mouth' and cats are basically letting you know it without...coming out and saying it. I know a few cats who have had that 'happen'. That devastation, while I normally wouldn't wish it on ANYONE for nothing, was one I thoroughly enjoyed. I can't wait for that moment to happen to some of you. See you walking around all 'dazed and confused' and shit. lol  Out here thinking you 'taught her something' like your name is Yeezy and you end up talking like Chris Rock did in the skit. Talking about...

I gotta thank.....  then.. He reupholstered this here... (Chris Rock Voice) 






I love it when that happens to you 'pimps and players'. You thought you were gonna just go down the aisles of 'Get You A Dream Wife/Girl', with THE FAIRY GODSLUT IN TOW for consultation purposes,  you were just gonna pick your Queen right out huh? She was just gonna come out the box sucking and fucking ALL THE RIGHT? With no miles huh? No experiences to share but KNOW EVERYTHING HUH? That's how you saw it happening? Then you my friend, are DELUSIONAL. Yeah plair. Sure you're right...As if you were the Chosen One and shit.... You got 'chose' aight..








I would say the standard "I can't wait for you to have daughters' but I don't want ANY LITTLE GIRL to have to grow up with the ideal that 'any and all actions' will have her PERMANENTLY DEEMED TO BE A HOE while already having to deal with the logistics of even having a guy LIKE HER and dealing with an asshole for a Father who deems it necessary to act like she is the second coming of the Virgin Mary.  One who is NEVER GOING TO ALLOW HER TO BE A HUMAN BEING and is going to try to his best to raise a SOCIALLY AWKWARD human being at the behest of his own ego....

Same Father who 'doesn't love any of these women out here' and treats them like they are second class citizens that are here merely for his viewing and fucking pleasure. Naw..I don't want that for some young lady. Some cat who is gonna smother his little girl in fear that some cat is going to do EXACTLY what he and some young lady did in his heyday. So no I don't want that for any young lady. I'm all for him teaching her 'the game' don't get me wrong but just like any other 'game', 'the game' entails some inherently flawed shit. 

The main one being that you 'can never recover from shit you did in the past'......which is...THE BIGGEST CROCK OF BULLSHIT EVER. 


Maybe you can't recover from it in the eyes of motherfuckers who don't have shit, have no bearing on you Life and wish they DID or won't be shit anyway. Maybe in THAT CROWD. Lets keep it funky, those folks SHOULDN'T MATTER ANYWAY THOUGH. Fuck them. Let them keep living on their 'high school merits', what they 'used to be able to pull' and what they could have been if 'such and such didn't happen'. Aka 'I was the 'man/woman' back 20 years ago.* Who really gives a fuck about 'them'? I know I don't. Fuck 'em. Straight like that. Nobody has time for 'bitter persecutors' and their agendas mayne. For real. 

Four years from now, if you are still talking about something that 'happened to such and such' with vigor, I have to wonder...'Just what is YOUR LIFE LIKE?" that you take such pleasure in recounting some shit that ultimately has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU or the betterment of you?  So you what, you remember that such is a 'hoe' or that you 'know of something bad that happened to them'?  Good for you. Can you remember the answers to that test on that application on that job test your ass keeps failing though? Can you 'get invested' in your child's Life and maybe 'get involved in that' other than to see if he/she 'has that family gene that might get you paid' via the 380 jobs that the 'League that you coulda/woulda made had the coach not been bullshitting'? Can you do that? "Cause you remembering sordid details about someone's Life while not living the Life of an Angel your damm self just doesn't move me nigga. Sorry. 





Ya'll be the same FOLKS THAT ONE SOMEONE..lets just come out and say it..WHITE PEOPLE... to overlook your past so that you can get a shot to do whatever it is you want to do though. -_- Yeah...okay... 






What I find interesting about that 'way of thinking' and those who prescribe to it is that they are usually folks who have had their own past 'cloud' over them. They have allowed others to 'dictate that their past is their present'. Folks who DON'T HAVE ANY TYPE OF CONTRIBUTION TO THEIR LIVES control it. So they in turn try to do that to others. That's what I have noticed. I mean I have to say, if you think I give ONE FUCK about some cat that I NEVER SEE, WHO HAS NO BEARING ON ANY OUTCOME IN MY LIFE nor has ever contributed anything to it that I couldn't have gotten myself YOU ARE CRAZIER THAN HELL. Maybe that is why I am not running around trying to 'hold everyone's past against them' though. Some of you should let go of your own demons. Might clear your plate for to do what it is you are SUPPOSED TO BE DOING and not this gossipy, crabs in a barrel type shit you are carrying on now. 

ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A DUDE. Cats have gotten HIGHLY HOEMOTIONAL out here. That's hoe shit. Sorry fellas. Stop listening to you super lonely Uncle who is gonna end up being 'alone in the club at 40'. (If he isn't already..) The same Uncle that your first cousins CAN'T DESPISE because he never got around to being a 'real man'. I know he sounds 'cool' and shit but there isn't shit 'cool' about running down folks about their past. He knows that all too well. He is CONSTANTLY being ran down about his. It shows every time he talks about 'The Man'.... 

Ladies...you aren't exempt from this either but I just felt I needed to direct it more towards the dudes this time. If you are participating in any of this foolishness, you are no better. Especially if you are just a 'loose lipped' dude away from having your 'activities' on front street. You need to quit it too. Let folks live out here. Being a parent (or as this post started out a POTENTIAL PARENT) doesn't 'exempt' one from 'doing shit' and just like anything else, there are things that folks just have to accept. @ anything that was done that unsatisfactory. Ya'll are REALLY quick to put that Scarlett Letter A on folks out here but just like the 'Uncle' up top, you want folks to forgive you for transgressions. Set the example and stop holding onto that past yourselves. 
















 *Sorry homie..Life goes on. That 4-7 year run you had from say Middle school to High school, when everyone was still finding themselves is over. Most of ya'll still living off the back of that. Fuck you at playboy/playgirl? Catch up. It is 2012... What is even funnier is that the things you did so well THEN you don't even have 'THAT' to hang your hat on. lol


** For the record, IF YOUR MOTHER DID DO SOME UNSAVORY THINGS, I personally wouldn't hold that against her. Especially if it was what was necessary to keep shit afloat. It is called being a grown up. She has/had needs and sometimes those needs probably helped her fulfill the 'needs' she acquired when she had you. Everything isn't all glory... 
 

  

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(Words) Some things are better left between you and your lawyer. Dude admits to smashing 14 years old basically..

..on that lovely social tool we know as Twitter.

This won't be too long (or at least I don't plan on it being that long)....


I tried to do a little research into the young man in question before I just out and out blasted him. Maybe see if he were say '17ish-19ish' and coming to grips with the fact that the age he is speaking on is a 'pond he can no longer fish in'.. Nope. Not the case. What leads me to that conclusion is the fact that he used a '24 year old' woman in his original statement and some other little small factors.* Maybe if THAT is the perspective that he was coming from, I MAY have given leeway to even Rting him and/or making the post. 


Alas, he is a grown ass man tweeting that. All the way grown and for that he is wrong. I mean if HE FEELS THAT WAY about knocking off random 14 year old girls, he needs to just say THAT. Not 'any man' would. Furthermore, even if you DID FEEL THAT WAY, THE LAW STATES THAT IT IS WRONG and last I checked, although you can't be locked up for saying that, any and all contact with anyone underage by him would probably be looked at in a suspect light. 

Now I want you guys to forget I'm a Father of a girl (and other little girls who will be Lord willing) that age just for two paragraphs. I am going to speak as a man. 'Cause I didn't JUST GET THE IDEA THAT TALKING TO A 14 YEAR GIRL AND BEING CASUAL ABOUT IT WAS 'JUST RIGHT' when I became a Father. Nope. It hasn't set right with me for a long time. You see, I had a COUPLE OF FOLKS tell me that I needed to stop fishing out of that pond when I became of age. (I started having that said to me my SR year of high school actually..) So I did. Clearly, as I stated in the UP TOP, I do have some 'empathy' for a dudes who weren't told this** because like the young man whose tweet I posted up, they aren't being properly mentored that it is no longer acceptable to date someone who is CLEARLY AT A MATURITY DISADVANTAGE (in most cases) than you are. The differences are too vast and quite frankly, most of the times, they are far too vulnerable to fall prey to the things that a dude who is even 19 or so has to offer in the way of money, access to certain things and experience. 

Clearly, homie doesn't see it that way. Now these are the times when I don't feel bad for folks when Fathers, Uncles, brothers, male friends and the like get involved. I don't even want to wish bad on the man by saying "I hope that XYZ happens when he does...." Nope. I want to be proactive and have it NOT HAPPEN TO A LITTLE GIRL IN THE FIRST PLACE. That is my wish. My wishes don't always come true though. I suspect by his language that I am too late actually. That he is speaking from a place of "I'd do it again..." rather than 'I wouldn't mind..." That is why I am putting him on display here today. Hopefully, one of you will reach out to him and let him know in STEREO that his attitude towards teenage girls might lead to VERY BAD THINGS. Again, I am no idiot. So I won't be 'threatening' him print per say. 

Now you can 'remember' that I am a parent again of the little girls....The 'parent' in me has this to say...

NIGGA, IF I EVER CATCH YOU AROUND ANYTHING IN MY HOUSE that is that age,  I WILL PERSONALLY TAKE THE .25 AND LET YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS. Not anything bigger either 'cause I want to get UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL WITH YOU. @ THE CALIBER I CHOSE. In order to do harm, I have to be close and that is what it will be. Up close and VERY PERSONAL. I don't care WHERE YOU ARE FROM EITHER. At all. Funeral homes are all over homie.   I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in these sentiments. @ the Fathers, brothers, uncles, male figures in any of the future 14 year old girls you wouldn't mind 'fucking'... Take it how you want to. NIGGA. I'd be willing to bet your favorite show is TCAP isn't it? You are probably one of those niggas up here making jokes and shit on Twitter huh? 

Look, I won't even hit you with the 'What if it were your.." shit either. Fuck all of that. I hope if you have done it, someone finds out, takes a hot coat hanger and sticks it up in YOU AS FAR AS IT WILL GO, takes it back out, heats it back up and STICKS IT BACK IN YOUR MOUTH DOWN YOUR THROAT AS FAR IT WILL GO. That's how I feel about you and your attitude towards fucking 14 year olds that look like they are 24.....*** 

I think that about covers this week's 'words'. Have a good day ya'll..







*You can feel free to ask the young man his age if you like. I've seen enough personally. I don't have to. Plus, I RETWEETED HIM ON MY TL and he didn't say shit so clearly he doesn't want to address what was said. Probably will after reading this but so what.... It's published now. I stand by it. 

** Even though they should STILL KNOW IT IS WRONG ON SOME LEVEL...


*** PARENTS RAISE YOUR CHILDREN. He is wrong. You are equally wrong if your child isn't wearing AGE appropriate clothing. I know you don't want to HEAR THAT but you are. Period. Stop trying to make your kids look like a MINIATURE YOU MOM. Dads...stay in your daughter's lives and let them know they are PRETTY AS THEY ARE so they don't have to have the need for some dude to tell 'em on a regular basis..

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(Video) This is NOT A GLORIFICATION OF WHAT TOO SHORT IS TALKING ABOUT..

I'm a fan of his music. Won't even SIT HERE AND ACT LIKE I AM NOT. Not a super fan but a fan nonetheless. I can't clap to this shit here though. Nope. I guess he isn't asking me to either though huh? He is ASKING OUR YOUTH TO DO SO. Interesting. Later on though, he will be telling them tales of not letting pussy ruin their lives though after BASICALLY TURNING THEM ONTO IT before they can handle the responsibility of what might happen when they shoot something outta their dick up in someone. Hadn't thought of it like that had you? I know... He won't acknowledge it either. I'm not writing this to 'change' his mind though. That nigga's grown. Fuck I'mma say to change his mind?


There is NO DENYING that things happen during these ages. Even things he is SPEAKING ON. Not sure how I feel about an ADULT giving out tutorials on a hip hop site though TO CHILDREN. He wasn't speaking to adults. He was speaking to CHILDREN. Surprised nobody thought about this a LITTLE MORE BEFORE IT WAS DECIDED TO GIVE HIM THIS PLATFORM.

Master taught you well Todd Shaw. Master taught well. @ the Jedi Mind tricks. Understand that I am not JUST NOW REALIZING THIS THOUGH. Oppressive tactics used against your own people. I'm not surprised though for as much as I ENJOY his music, I know to keep that BULLSHIT in its place. On the record. Unfortunately, I know some of you CANNOT DO THAT. Which is why I am fearful about the message being spread like this shit here is 'okay'..It isn't...

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Life, Love & Sinn aka @SinnamonLove: The Miseducation Of Amber Cole | The Well Versed

Life, Love & Sinn: The Miseducation Of Amber Cole | The Well Versed


I'mma give you a piece of what she wrote.... Go read the rest of it at the link...



Oh and for you 'high horse/but low on the totem pole' cats who don't want a 'porn star' to tell you anything, she sounds better educated than you and your favorite lil 'smart blogger/favorite tweeter'. Word she does...





Reading the story of Amber Cole through bloggers and social media sites I’m glad I missed the masses of people berating this young girl for her sexual exploration and making poor decisions with her heart because of one reason… I too was miseducated. The extent of sex education for most young women of color at home is “don’t get pregnant,” while at school its “these are the STDs you can catch.” I remember skipping school to go to Planned Parenthood when I thought I was pregnant by a boyfriend in high school, (turned out I had ovarian cysts instead.) Up until I overheard an older sister and her friends discussing the physical sensation of orgasms, I had been terrified that I had urinated on my partner when I ejaculated. I knew that “16 could get you 20,” but was still flattered by the attention of the good looking older boys with cars, jobs and money… despite having both a stepfather at home and my biological father that both spoiled me rotten. I was terrified of the idea of my boyfriend “going down” on me and thought “giving head” was something only White girls did.



At 16, a boyfriend broke up with me because I wouldn’t give him a blow job and wouldn’t engage in anal sex only to have him come to a video store signing in North Carolina shocked that I had grown up to be, well, Me. But that was the 80s and 90s… before I became a mother, before I went to college, before I met my first love and long before porn. I think back to that same boyfriend at 16 that recorded the sound of us having sex with his dual cassette boom box, (while Janet Jackson’s “Someday is Tonight” played on the other side,) and giggling at the thought of his being able to listen to it later when he was alone. To this day, he still has that tape. To this day, its still considered child porn.



This is not intended to be a condemnation on the persecution and criminalization of consensual sex between teens. I’m not going to get into a discussion of single parent households, fatherlessness and young girls seeking attention or lack of positive role models in the media for young people to follow. I don’t know Amber Cole, her family or her background and I certainly can’t make any assumptions as to what was going through her head when she decided to do whatever “he” wanted in order to win him back. To say that it was despicable how adults attacked this young girl online, to the point of their being rumors of her suicide is indeed an understatement yet – I’m not surprised.



For as long as I could remember, despite the lack of appropriate sex education, I always heard grown ups talk about “fast tail little girls” that flirted too much, wore short skirts or were just victims of their early physical development. No one ever chastises the men for their lecherous looks and inappropriate advances, but we certainly denigrate the girls to harlots rather quickly. What does bother me the most is that even in this day and age, we continue to perpetuate the cycle of misinformation or a lack of appropriate sex education for teens and young adults, yet punish them socially and criminally for their activities. In some states, a 19-year-old can be punished for up to 10 years for consensual sex with a 16-year-old and yet, in talking to my 18-year-old son I’ve found that not once was appropriate ages of sex partners or statutory rape covered in any of his sex ed classes in elementary, middle school or high school. Sex education continues to be limited to reproduction and disease, with limited information about available services for birth control, abortion, incest or sexual abuse.



In light of the Amber Cole Incident and the questions that came later from my 14-year-old currently taking sex ed, I’ve found that traditional sex education continues to stagnate and doesn’t include information on potential repercussions that sexting or consensual filming of sex acts between minors can have on the futures (legally, academically and socially,) of all parties involved. Its not 100% the schools fault. Educators are crippled by fear from parents that are blinded by their spiritual or moral beliefs on what they do and don’t want their children to be taught. Teenagers continue to wear purity rings and yet engage in risky sexual behaviors such as anal and oral sex in order to maintain their virginity. Boys are still allowed to be boys and girls are still expected to be held to a higher standard… and as in the case of Amber Cole, at least 2 boys have now been arrested and the FBI is deciding whether to prosecute…



I have to wonder, did anyone ever have a discussion with Amber Cole about sex in public places or looking out for hidden cameras? Did anyone ever say to these boys that pornography is something produced for and by adults and is not something for children and teens to engage in? Did anyone ever stop to tell these young men that “you don’t have to lie to kick it,” and that sometimes, honesty will still allow them to find sexual satiation while lies will only leave a sea of broken, angry hearts behind?
It angers me that somewhere along the line, all 4 of these children involved have been failed – not just by their parents and their schools, but their communities at large. It seems no one sat this young lady down and explained to her that sometimes guys (and girls) will try to take advantage of her sexuality and to be cautious of who you give you heart to. I’m angry because I see Amber Cole – yet another young woman that was under the mistaken belief that sex and love are synonymous – was willing to do anything for the “man” she loves. I wish that we would stop limiting sex education to bible verses and disease and start giving these young women back their power.



Its time for real world sex education; masturbation, condom use, risky sexual behavior, teen sex laws and consequences outside of STDs and teen pregnancy MUST be included in our discussions of sex with our kids. Parents have to stop thinking that conversations of teen sex will encourage promiscuity. When my oldest daughter went away to college with her boyfriend, I had a discussion with her about birth control. Today, at 19, they have now been together 5 years and are both in their 2nd year of college at the same school and there aren’t any babies on the way. When my youngest got ready to start high school I had a frank discussion with her about boys using a girl’s sexuality to their advantage for their own sexual exploration, and encouraged her to make sure when she is ready that her sexual exploration is on her terms and no one else’s. These are the conversations we should be having with our children.




People continue to act as though the Boogie-Man is some creepy old guy that lives in a house around the corner that everyone knows not to go to his house on Halloween… but what about the predator right in your child’s classroom, or the playground, or on the phone, cupcaking with them late at night? Throughout the late 90s, talk show television and soap operas brought to light the subject of teen domestic violence. I can only hope that the Miseducation of Amber Cole brings to light the subject of teen sex abuse and misconduct and allows us to have more frank, open conversations with our children. Sex is on every television show they watch and in every song on the radio that they listen to. If songs like Miguel’s “Quickie” can be played on the radio, how can you not explain to your children what a quickie is if you hear them playing it or humming along? How can you not sit through an episode of Family Guy, American Dad, South Park or Tosh 2.0 with your kids so you can inquire what they know about the subject matter they are laughing at? Sometimes, being a parent isn’t comfortable but you still have an obligation to fulfilling your children’s needs. If we don’t educate our kids, the streets will continue to do so… and Amber Cole won’t be the last young Black woman exploited and these three Black boys won’t be the last to be criminalized as a result.

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No middle ground on the 'Yonce pregnancy I see....Forget her being pregnant lets talk about how some of you are acting out here....

'cause it is pretty damm sad.


Either cats are gonna buy the child it's first gift or folks hate the idea. What happened to the 'middle ground'? and PLEASE DON'T RUN UP ON ME WITH THE 'IDGAF' plea cop. That is not 'middle'. That is far left and YOU KNOW IT 'cause it speaks to your disdain for one or both parties involved 9.99/10. (I don't speak in absolutes when at all possible.)

More interesting than those two notions is the visceral shots thrown AT ANYONE WHO THINKS THE OPPOSITE OF THESE TWO IDEALS. It is like somehow those of you that do this have MANAGED TO MAKE IT ABOUT YOU while still slandering them. How you did it I don't know. Even funnier, you don't even REALIZE that is what you have done.

I mean I have seen it all...Cats mad at folks for being 'happy' for her by throwing out such winners as "Ya'll are acting like you are gonna be at the baby shower or some shit...."/THAT'S WHY YOUR LIL CRUMB SNATCHER DOESN'T HAVE WHAT MINE HAS 'CAUSE YOU ARE TOO WORRIED ABOUT HER...

Meanwhile on the flip side FOLKS ARE EQUALLY AS ANGRY AT THE FOLKS who don't 'welcome the news. Probably due to the insults hurled like the ones I just quoted. Man I don't have time for all of that.

I stand somewhere in the middle of all of that. I mean as someone who actually likes those two (I would be willing to guess that is the root of most of this. The "Do you like 'em or not" context of things....) I am 'positive' about the news. I didn't make an initial post here on the blog but when she put it out there in the pre-interview, I put the pic on FB. . HOWEVER, I really haven't said too much more about it unless asked. Why?

It is not my child nor a child that I will have any factor in rearing. I also know a little bit about child rearing BEYOND the fact that I was one myself so I am not about to pop junk about it. I know how hard it truly is. I know some of you are coming from that 'hurt' place in your life so you are projecting all types of stuff in your comments. I have no ax to grind in that matter. I am not 'mad' at her for being with him. I don't 'hate him for some rap he said or his 'position' in hip hop. I don't 'get mad that people say he OR she is the best doing it in their respective places in the genres of music they do. Not because I agree with that sentiment (One is my favorite and the other I like...but not that high on the list) but because I don't carry those types of feelings over to their personal lives. I'm not about to be out here hoping 'their kid doesn't look like such and such' on some sneak diss type time. Not out here 'hoping that she doesn't end up looking like her mother when she is older' 'cause quite frankly WE ALL GET OLD. Some of us better than others but it happens. Besides, with as reckless as some of you talk about Life in general, I am not expecting you to be here much longer to have to worry about it. It is just not my place to be that invested in what is going on with them and their child. I don't 'hang my hopes of black marriage' on them. I don't need them as role models nor would I want to do that to them. I would rather 'let them cook'.

I am far less invested in 'What kinda parents they are gonna be...' or 'What the child's name is gonna be..." or my all time favorite..."What is the child going to look like?". These are all things we will find out. I'm in no hurry. I have my own to take care of. Which leads me to the speculation...oops I mean slander...'Cause that is what 99% of ya'lls 'slander' really is. Speculation.


Speculation for me isn't as much of a sport as it seems to be for some of you. I like laughs and jokes too but for two people that a lot of you claim not to give a 'fuck about', 75% of your TL has been about 'em if it isn't about the other two characters you claim not to care about. (Wayne and Drake). I would excuse the youngin's from partaking in such bullshit EXCEPT for the fact that they are waxing philosophical about being grown so .....yeah...

So what the (bleep) are you saying Mr. Blogger? Ole Enlightened One? Do tell us.....


(Chuckles) You KNOW what I am saying. The fact that this topic dominated the WHOLE NIGHT INTO THE NEXT DAY is silly. Folks out here worrying about a child that even if it were to turn out 'harmed', that they wouldn't be able to help. Speculating on shit 'just cause they can'. Being hurtful 'for the hell of it'. Same folks that keep wondering why things 'never happen for them'. I don't. It is clear as day why shit doesn't happen for you. Your energy is focused on the wrong thing.

Take this ridiculous notion that some of you are running with that says the pregnancy rates will skyrocket due to this news. Bull. Shit. Matter of fact, let me riddle you this.

Who else got pregnant that caused the other four children that all of these 'ratchet girls' who are gonna follow Beyonce's lead? I'll wait....

I mean folks have been getting pregnant out here a long time and the HISTORY behind it has NOTHING TO DO WITH BEY. She didn't cause your cousin Tremaine to fool with Leroy and have 3 kids by him did she? Oh. She isn't the reason your Pops left your Moms or that you have stepbrothers and stepsisters. Living life in a vacuum for the sake of a joke must be a good time for some of you. Again, I don't wanna hear it is a joke because you 'ran said joke' about twenty times already. "I blame...." You seem REALLY SERIOUS with that. You already have someone in mind when you say stuff like that from what I have seen when I talk to you about it (or see you speak on it) later on down the line.


Another one I would like to dispel is the notion that she 'did it the right way'...(Oh you thought I was only gonna go at one side of this thing didn't you? That's your problem. Not mine. I am not you homie.)


I do understand 'what the right way' is too. That's not what I am arguing. What I am arguing is the notion that 'once you do XYZ then you can no longer be XYZ'. That is my issue. See, I know how this all plays out. You start running with the notion that one can 'never recover' from a mistake and the next thing you know, you guessed.....SOME ONE IS NO LONGER GOING TO GIVE A DAMM. Their actions will never be 'to get right' because they have already messed up in Life. You see that type of attitude every day.* 

So while I get promoting 'the right way' and ideally one would like it to go that way, you HAVE TO LIVE IN THE REAL WORLD. You know where happiness can be achieved more than one way? Where fairy tales don't come true but you turn out more than okay anyway? 

Maybe folks don't want to married out here.** They have their child and they have realized that maybe it needs to be the way it is. I know there are a lot of folks out here who 'bash' the other parent but I know some who have ACTUALLY LET IT GO and just go along their parenting way finding happiness later on in life via someone else once things got settled.  I know some who knew FROM JUMP that they were alone and handled their business and did the same.  Finally, I know some that STILL AREN'T MARRIED but have ADULT CHILDREN and their situation works for them. So while there is an ideal......

Maybe folks don't get 'it right' the first time around and have a kid or three. No need to hand out Scarlet Letters via Beyonce's pregnancy though. Which is what kinda slander is being sent with this message. Lets not act like Bey is the first 'honest' woman out here. She is not. There are plenty of folks out there doing their thing with the child situation either the way she is doing it or in other ways. I don't know Bey personally so I can't speak to how she feels about it but I am doubting she is doing anything else than living her life the best she can. @ any 'messages' she is sending.


It is also pretty funny to hear folks who don't even LIKE relationships speak on Jay/Bey's in absolutes...Cats speaking on folks 'winning' in Life and such but still finding that 'little hole' to poke to keep 'em down a notch. Good job buddy. Hats off to you for the backhanded compliments. Kudos to all of you out there laughing too for without you, this wouldn't be 'entertaining.'. Oh that's right, you are just 'telling' the truth. My bad plair. Keep projecting....I mean telling the your..I mean the truth about THEIR situation. Opinion? You are blurring the line on that one champ. Sorry. See the 'speculation' paragraph above. Now if that is what you get 'paid' to do, COOL. That doesn't mean I have to 'accept' it as the gospel though. So I am not telling you (or your favorite blogger/radio show/whatever person) not to write it. Just know that I am pretty dismissive of some of those notions. Just know if you do this on the regular, just like you see patterns in folks, someone might see one in you. Just saying....

*Reminds me of a particularly ignorant tweet I saw when the Earthquake rumbled our coast the other week in regards to that person 'not doing right because it is all gonna end anyway.' I'd bet money that same person has complained more than once about nobody 'giving a fuck about the plight of the folks where they live' yet they want someone to care while they harvest the attitude that they have. Yeah aight...Folks should care more about you than you do about yourself? What planet do you live on chief? You clearly don't care about yourself or others so why should anyone else? Exactly.


**And maybe folks do. So hold your horses if you think I am on your side if you are a 'marriage basher'. I am not. I respect your right to feel that way. That is all.

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I WISH THEY COULD INVENT TIME TRAVEL just so some of you could see the dumb shit you subscribe to is BULLSHIT...Vol. 121231201 by Me.

If all you get out of this is 'don't pick on Kim K' then you lack reading comprehension. It actually isn't about her. It is about you. Yes you. Too many 'you's' to name so let me just end the speculation and say I am talking about YOU. That way you won't have to 'guess'.....





kim-kardashian-wedding-message-from-egotastic by EgotasticMedia

You probably shouldn't watch this tape if you AT WORK OR IN CHURCH. Let me just tell you that clips from her tape of Ray J. I was torn about even putting it up but I know most folks don't 'believe' the things they should and blindly follow the things they shouldn't...So here it is....I'm not promoting it though...Far from it actually...You guys COMPLAIN TO DEATH that she gets too much promotion. She gets MOST OF HER PROMOTION from you though. Yeah Candies put her out front and whatnot but THEY ONLY DID IT BECAUSE FOLKS LIKE YOU KEPT TALKING ABOUT HER.  I've seen folks try to 'blame' her for every act of what they deem 'hoedom' known to man. From Furious Styles daughter to the girl in their hood which is pretty much bullshit since this has been going on FOREVER. 


Not wishing anything bad on folks like this but surely won't be offering up my prayers when it happens. Ya know? @ the folks who go outta their way to do videos/pictures/screen caps and such like this.

I find it highly amusing when folks take shots like these at people they don't 'know' or fool with. Usually there are MULTIPLE shots taken, all in the name of 'I don't give a fuck about about that..' 

You see it isn't that I 'care' about Kim's well being and shit. She is fine. She could buy and sell 75% of you ninjas out here. That is the main issue for most of you. Straight jealousy. Period. You can deny it all you want but the statement that always lets ME KNOW PERSONALLY THAT I AM RIGHT IS THIS COME BACK to the 'jealous' diss the celebrity may (correctly) throw back to their detractors.

"If I had that kind of money it wouldn't bother me WHAT FOLKS SAID ABOUT ME...I would be doing me. Not listening to what folks were saying. I'd have money and I wouldn't care..." 

That is pretty interesting considering most of you LOVE TO HIT FOLKS WITH THAT IN ONE BREATH BUT IN THE NEXT BREATH IT IS "I don't care how RICH I GET, I am still going to be protective when it comes to my name and you mentioning it. Never going to get too big to do that." in another breath. Contradict yourself much? 


Again, don't defend to me that you aren't jealous either. I've heard your dreams over and over again. Most of you tell me them in 'every rap' you make. Or every story you tell. Every social network status you make. Or every make believe 'event' that takes place in your life that you over embellish to the TENTH POWER. 

It is the same story. You want your 'name to ring bells', your every whim catered to and you want......MONEY. Hand over fist, I don't care about that car I just crashed I will buy FIVE MORE TOMORROW THAT LOOK JUST LIKE IT....MONEY. So when you see someone you have deemed 'unworthy' of having said money you 'speak out on it'. That my friend is jealousy. Hate to break it to you. You have envy and hate in your blood. That's just what it is. I know you and your friends don't see it that way so don't use that as an excuse. They are YOUR FRIENDS. No shit. You all think alike and guess what? THEY ARE JEALOUS TOO. I see that when YOU HAVE A LITTLE BIT OF SUCCESS.




So what do folks who are 'jealous' of the things that aren't happening to them. They turn to what I like to call the 'Holy Grail of Ignorant Folks Scriptures'. They find one that 'fits' their stupid agenda and repeat it over and over again, citing the fact that it was in a popular song/movie/or book as the reason it is THE GOSPEL. Usually the author of said saying either died of the VERY THING HE PRESCRIBED BY (Gone too soon though...according to some). 

In this case it is this little wack ass saying...





"You can't turn a hoe into a housewife....."

Like I said in the title of this piece, if I had a time machine I could really dispel this 'myth' for you. I don't though so I have to 'take it there' to show that your 'hoe'* logic in regards to what their 'life will turn out like is pretty fucking flawed. 

That 'sweet old lady' at the store who looks out for you when you take one can of soda too many? You know when you were broke? Her. She was a hoe back in the day by your definition. I would go on and on with the 'examples' but this 'definition' of what makes a woman a 'hoe'* that some of you have pretty much means a woman would have to be a 'virgin'. Which is the biggest crock of shit I have ever heard in my life.

Any one of these women I mentioned could be your aunt, your Mother, your......You get the point. I mean by the definition that you guys have of a hoe. I LOVE how you guys think that 40 years from now, EVERYONE will still be talking about what someone did. Ya'll live in a vacuum that has narrowed down life to the ages 12- your mid thirties (as some of you are late bloomers) and it being ALL ABOUT THE BAD THINGS YOU HAVE DONE DURING THAT TIME PERIOD. 


How wack your life must be if you are stuck in what happened in life during these times. No wonder you are running around here complaining. Your life must SUCK and you must not have shit else going on. Oh and I like how a lot of you are 'all knowing'/been through it all on these subjects but are still 'undefeated' or never took a 'loss'. Good one champ....

Now at this point, you are over there saying to yourself, 'Is this ninja crazy? Is he REALLY OUT HERE SAYING THERE AREN'T ANY HOES OUT HERE OR SOMETHING? Who does he know 'cause no one around me has....." 


Get over yourself fam. For real. You nor your friends are 'exempt' from folks with a past. There is no 'aisle' in the store where you can pluck some 'Perfect Untouched Woman' off the shelves. At least not one that is gonna be able to do all the 'things' that some of you claim your woman better be ABOVE AVERAGE AT. Natural ability is natural ability but yeah....Ya dig? Everyone isn't going to shoot the course record their first time out and KEEP IT UP with some 'practice'. Some of the 'practice' rounds are 'public' and some are pretty well kept under wraps. 


Don't think for one second though that your 'hoe radar' has somehow netted you 'The Virgin Mary' of the non virgins out here. You were just the beneficiary of a REAL MAN not out here putting your future Queen on blast. It has nothing to do with 'her'. It is the dudes. 'Cause we ALL COULD BRAG ABOUT OUR ESCAPADES and feed into the next man's insecurities if we didn't have a the sense to act like we have 'been there before'.  Who are you bitch made dudes that are SO THIRSTY FOR MALE ATTENTION that you are out here making 'relationships' seem like 'jumpoff' opportunities? (Don't worry, the woman WILL BE ADDRESSED IN THIS POST TOO..) Better still, who are you idiots out here that let the fact that you KNOW better get buried by the fact that you wanna be 'cool' with said dudes. Don't you have a set of nuts fam? Are you not your own man? You are really 'buying' that 'She is just some smut I met..' line that your boy (or the dude online who uploads these pictures) is throwing out here? Knowing he is spending time with her and surprisingly he knows her WHOLE LIFE STORY but he just 'met her'? You sir, are an idiot if I have ever seen one if you believe this bag of bullshit. These cats are 'exposing' girls that they were in relationships with for the most part. That isn't really 'exposing' either. That is just being an asshole. By proxy, most of you admit and LOVE BEING AN ASSHOLE so a girl 'choosing one' doesn't seem that far fetched since the World is full of them. Then you cats are wondering why girls have turned to being fake lesbians though.....What choice do they have when the men are out here acting like little girls and being catty?




Another point that I would like to make is that all this 'judgement' that you have going on is BULLSHIT. You are out here acting like 'being a hoe' (again by your loose ass terms) just started when your 'role models' came out of the nut sack. All I am saying is that the shit didn't just start and FOLKS HAVE GONE ON TO HAVE LIVES. Good ones. You ninjas are out here giving out Scarlett Letters to gals and that shit is horrible. Going out of your own little miserable way to make sure it becomes that way though. Which is pretty sad. Especially if you are one of these ninjas running around with an "F' on your back talking about 'Nobody will let me live down my past....' OR if you are in ANY SITUATION that your past is keeping you down. 

Here you are out here in these streets doing THE SAME THING that you accuse 'The Man" (aka the White privileged man) of doing. A joke is a joke but some of you are SERIOUS WITH THIS SHIT. Some of you are TAKING ACTION with this thing. Spreading rumors like little girls. It is on your mind too much. It is all you talk about. It is all you tweet about. It is all you want to 'small talk' about. Hoes....hoes..hoes...Enough already.

Now you are out here on Kris Humphries dick about who he is marrying. Not who you are marrying or your family member or friend. A quarter you don't have nary a nickel in. Out here talking about what he should be doing when you can't even KEEP YOUR OWN SHIT TOGETHER. The same dude you all have admitted didn't know EXISTED a year ago. Your kids are out here 'fatherless'. You are jobless. Your shit isn't 'Where you want it to be...." even if you are having success but yet here you are daily expounding on the 'Ways Kris Humphries' went wrong.

Opinion is ONE THING but it stops being 'just' and opinion when it is permeates your every day topics. Every day ya'll got a 'rant' for that man or that woman. It is pretty interesting to watch you guys go on and on about someone that you supposedly 'Don't care about' day after day.


Out here talking about Kris is 'ruining' the game. FOH. He is playing on a field 95% OF YOU WILL NEVER PLAY ON but..but...but..the same field that you have already said had women on it who 'aren't shit anyway'. So what does it matter? He picks a non rich 5/6 ('Cause I already know some of you will say Kim is a 6 just to prove your point...) and he is an idiot. He picks a 10 with nothing to her name, he's an idiot. He picks a 8-10 WITH SOMETHING then it is 'He doesn't even run his own household anyway.." Stop acting like he has a 'win' in any scenario he chooses. @ even dissing him in the first place. 'Cause he doesn't. All those of you who choose to talk about the subject on a daily basis are gonna do is find a way for him to look 'bad'. You are just....there goes that 'j' word again....****

I mean I know what YOU would do if you were in his situation but YOU AREN'T HIM. He couldn't make the majority of you happy either way. I especially enjoy hearing folks with SOs talking about what they would do if 'they were him' @ NOT GET MARRIED and their SOs agreeing with it. That shit is FUNNY. Probably won't be so funny when they split up though @ said couples..(More on that later in the post...) Chuckle it up girls. 



Shoutout to ya'll who want Kris Humphries to be the perennial bachelor out here too. Talking about you are doing it 'for the love' @ the opinions about what folks are doing. I read your lonely tweets when you 'rain out' fam or did you forget? (Insert witty rapper line about GOOD COMMON SENSE and things that 'good' in general) I know it isn't all good out here in that 'single life' If it was so 'good' you wouldn't have to remind me that you are #teamsingle every five minutes to 'fake it'. We know you are single....Believe me...we hear you complaining about those who aren't. Funny thing for someone 'enjoying' their status. Seems like you wouldn't notice such things....I digress though...




It is my opinion and I have a RIGHT TO IT MR. BLOGGER! - You. 




You do. You can have it all day long. I CLEARLY can't change it even if I wanted to. Here's the thing though. If you RUN UP ON ME WITH THAT SHIT, I'm probably gonna call you on your bullshit. ESPECIALLY IF I KNOW YOU AND I KNOW YOUR TROUBLES. You want me over here 'judging thee FUCK' outta your past? 'Cause some of you have some shit with you. If you are out here taking the time to put up 'videos' and shit then yeah...I may take a few minutes to address just how stupid you sound. 



Even if I DON'T KNOW YOU, seeing as though you are 'human', I KNOW I can find some 'commonality' when it comes to this. Try me. Remember, if you are reading this, chances are you AT LEAST FACEBOOK, TWEET or put your 'trials and tribulations' out there. I'm not stupid or young. I know that EVERY BAD SITUATION you have been in wasn't due to someone else and their trifling ways. IT WAS YOU. You caused that shit and it is transparent. So you have done some of this same 'hoe' shit, been a Rest Haven for hoe shit** or whatever. Most of these jokes are coming from a hurt place. I can see it a mile away. 


Did your lil girlfriend in the 3rd grade take a milk from the 5th grader and dump you or something? Ya'll are ALL THE WAY OUT HERE in your feelings OVER SOME CHICK YOU DON'T KNOW. Someone that you keep saying is 'irrelevant'. Someone is out here watching these shows. Someone is out here buying that perfume. Showing up at Liv when she comes out to host parties. In PURE. I can't call it out here.....


I mean I see cats throwing the 'h-word' around when some folk's name comes up while they (or their 'thorough' idols) have the girl who used to suck the whole basketball team off, been with EVERY MAJOR DRUG DEALER IN THE AREA, and is on tape HERSELF with a 'sucker ass barber' as their main girl. With cats LINED UP TO BE THE NEXT CAT IN LINE TO BE HER MAIN.  Really? Word my ninja? All activities that are done by said girls 'with folks that weren't their boyfriends' at the time of the 'infraction'. Interesting 'cause according to ya'll, if folks come to YOUR ATTENTION for a having sex with their boyfriends (and the ninja is in the video talking that 'Baby' shit and eating the thing...) they are AUTOMATICALLY hoes though.  Unbelievable. Here you are out here saying a hoe will 'never prosper' or live it down but your 'idols' seem to have found otherwise.....all while telling you NOT 'LET THESE HOES BREATH..' Interesting that you are falling for this....*** How does sex with one's BOYFRIEND/MAN/HUSBAND in some cases constitute 'hoe'?* Huh? Don't act like you didn't watch the tapes. You saw 'em. These weren't one night stands. There are pictures of these cats putting in time in all of these cases. 



She is a 'hoe' 'cause she sold her sextape. It wasn't leaked....

Oh. You were there? You were in the negotiations? You have the paper work? Oh. You know for a 'fact' that the tape didn't leak? So a person is just supposed to just go ahead and let a company who had NOTHING TO DO WITH THE SITUATION get paid off of leaking the tape huh? She shouldn't try to get paid at all huh? You sound like an idiot. You are the same person who gets UPSET when folks don't give you credit for a stupid dance or a starting a lil fashion trend in your area but you want folks to just 'take the fade' on a sex tape WORLD WIDE? -_- So you can 'respect' her huh? L.M.A.O. You put too much value on your respect my nig....Get over yourself cuz...





Same way you knew for a 'fact' that other FORTY THINGS that you have been wrong about in life right? lol Yeah....I know... You have your opinion and that is fine but call me crazy for remembering but you have been DEAD WRONG before. All of you. 

  

 The ladies.....




Oh now before you ladies get to giggling too hard, you ARE NOT OFF THE HOOK ON THIS ONE. Not at all. Some of you are going HARDBODY on this WHOLE SUBJECT in general too.

I see you out there getting your good digs in. Again, it is cool. Your opinion. I know some of you too though. I see the 'hoe' tweets you put out there. The 'hoe' facebook status that you put up. The 'hoe' girlfriend trips you go on to Vegas, Miami, Atlanta, etc, etc. Not saying you can't go to these places 'cause you can (I don't speak in absolutes..Nice try though..) but the stories come back. They just do. Especially when that 'one friend' uses the trip's activities to cause fireworks back 'home' Ya dig? Anyhow, ya'll aren't exempt from this shit here. Nope. 



I actually blame you for EVEN DATING/GOING OUT WITH/MARRYING any dudes that think this way personally. By doing that, you make them think it is okay to feel like this for one and for two you are being pretty naive. I mean I can just see YOUR 'EX HUSBAND', the nigga you are riding for RIGHT NOW WHEN HE TALKS ABOUT ANYONE WITH A SEXTAPE OUT or who is considered a 'hoe', LEAKING YOUR INTIMATE DETAILS OUT JUST BEFORE THE FIRST ALIMONY CHECK IS WRITTEN. 

God bless you if you haven't 'married' him 'cause you won't even get paid for your performance. Where do you think all this 'homemade porn' is coming from? The 'hackers'? No. It is coming from these cats who 'can't stand hoes' but can't wait to EXPOSE the ones that trust them. Now some 'cat' who isn't married who talks REALLY WELL is probably gonna try to tell you different but urm....I know better. Trust me. If you only knew who asks me where to 'leak' what. How to go about 'making that bitch pay'. Here you are though. Out here with half the story, bashing gals you consider 'hoes' just because. Go ahead with your bad self. I'll be over here 'laughing' when your 'man' EXPOSES you. Any dude that thinks it is 'okay' to expose someone that they are in a relationship under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES is a sucker. Sorry. That's just manly. Woman do catty shit like that. Soft shit like that. Fuck Drake, that THERE IS SOME SOFT SHIT. Essentially, by co-signing your man's sentiments of ole girl being a 'hoe', you are condoning that. That's the message you want to send? Be my guest. Smile for the camera tho (probably hidden from some of you trusting fools or filmed while he was 'texting' when your head was down there.) 'cause you are up next on that Summer Jam Screen. "Cause he could give less than a fuck about you after the 'we' is gone...Hell, sometimes while there is still a 'we' depending on if he is still on that 'I gotta impress my boys' shit. Showing pictures of you sucking dick. Naked and shit. (I've/we've seen some of you. More hand action. You need not talk about Kim's skills...) And this is AFTER you have had that first kid so it isn't like folks don't know ya'll are getting it in... Good luck to you though! 

Sidenote: Taking your girl out to do the 'fuck how he is acting' thing is a CLOSE SECOND TO THIS if you are doing anymore than getting her out of the house for the night. Just calling it like I am seeing it. If you are taking her out with the intent of getting her dicked down, I'm talking to you. If you know your friend is a lot 'looser' when she is dropping lemonade shots at the bar and you aim to make her drink seven of 'em, I'm talking to you. Yes you. Clearly she is an adult but you know you aren't helping the cause.  Plus, you are probably COUNTING ON HER TO DO THE SAME FOR YOU so yeah...you aren't innocent.






Some of you aren't 'sponsoring hoe trips' and clapping to your man's views on this shit though. Some of you ARE OUT HERE fucking other dude's men like the shit is SWEET and then calling out other 'hoes' EXTRA HARD for hoe shit. Now I know the 'deflection' for that is 'I would know, I have done it so it is okay...'. 


This is me. That 'deflection' shit doesn't fly over here fam. Sorry. Run that game on your friends. Congratulate that hoe if she TRULY IS ONE. Tip your hat to her. Just don't hide behind the 'making a tape makes you a hoe' excuse. There is a big difference between you going out there and sucking dick to get all of your friends into VIP on the surveillance camera and someone doing it for their man. It is not the same thing. It just isn't. Stop trying to justify your hoe shit by saying that 'others are doing it' or by trying to make it all the 'same'. Nope. Not gonna fly here. I don't care how many 'hood niggas' you get to co-sign that shit, I know better. You doing the same things doesn't give you the green light to shine it on others to make yourself 'feel better' about what you are doing out here in these streets. Stop that. Nice try though.




(Funny shit. I am listening to my own playlist on the blog and 'Shake It" by Big K.R.I.T. comes on.... I LOVE THE SONG. Listen to the lyrics though and you will get EXACTLY WHAT I AM SAYING with this next paragraph.) 


Stop. Living. Your. Life. Like. Your. Favorite. Rapper/Actor/Neighborhood Cool Guy. And. Stop. Taking. It. Some. Of. The. Things. They. Say. So. Literally. In particular the bad shit. You know, the shit you KNOW YOU SHOULDN'T BE OUT HERE DOING but hearing them saying it makes it seem okay. Those same 'bad things' weren't invented by them btw. So stop running up on me with that 'Like such and such said you can't/need to/'...I don't wanna hear that shit. Be your own man fam and own up to your OWN BAD BEHAVIOR. Ladies too. 'Cause I don't know ANYONE WHO REALLY TALKS TO DEAD PEOPLE if you know what I am saying? I'll let that sit with you for a second... 




Damm you ARE REALLY TAKING THESE JOKES TO HEART HUH FAM? You suck- You

No. They don't hurt my feelings but hearing ya'll crow about it hurts my ears. I'm tired of hearing the same lame shit. Sorry. I just am. I also know a 'joke' when I hear one. These aren't jokes. These are hurt feelings spilling in the air over and over. Just complaint after complaint. Bunch of babies man. The kicker is these are supposed to be the 'toughest' folks from the 'roughest' places who are doing all this bitching. Really? Sounds like a bunch of crying and excuses to me. I have never been this concerned about what someone else does with their dick or their pussy as some of you seem to be. Maybe if you were this invested in your own relationships you wouldn't be around here calling them 'relationshits' and saying 'men and women ain't shit'. I digress though. That dude could fuck all his money off on her and she could go broke tomorrow and I still wouldn't care.

Oh and before I go, I didn't know that when one had a sex tape they were putting in their bid for 'World's Greatest Sex'. @ the 'critiques of Kim's performance. By that very definition there are a WHOLE LOT OF THINGS some of you should NEVER DO AGAIN WITH A CAMERA AROUND OR THE HUMAN EYE INVOLVED. Ever. In Life. If that is what we are doing. Especially if we are basing it around 'One Time'......Just saying....Some of you SUCK AT RAPPING. Suck at taking pictures...Suck at a lot of shit actually. Yet you are still out there 'doing it big'. So you say anyway....





*Your term, not mine..I'm not calling anyone shit. Especially someone whose actions I haven't been monitoring for years on end EVERY DAY forever...Like you clearly have. How do you do it? Don't you have a life? I mean seem to know a lot about a person that you are saying isn't 'shit' and isn't worth anything. Your time isn't 'worth' shit clearly as well thus making you not worth....never mind. I'm using logic again. My bad my nig...As you were..

** Which is worse to me as you are out here talking like you are 'undefeated' out here. Talking about.."Everyone knows you don't  (insert action) with a hoe"..Really Playboy? You didn't....You fucked up....Maybe that is where this is coming from. Hurt feelings and sour grapes 'cause she was sucking the next nigga's dick....Oops...My bad plair. Did I hit close to home? I'll play fair. You first though....

*** I just showed you that despite your pleas of  "Fuck that..once a whore always a whore' that you guys run around spitting on the daily, some of you actually do know it is possible. Which is ANOTHER reason I can't get with this 'The Sky is Falling' bashing of ole girl. You know better fam...Just because it is a large group of you doing it doesn't mean I'm gonna be an idiot about this. Peer pressure went out in the third grade. I'm not afraid to be in the minority on this one. Grow the fuck up....


**** For all the 'truth' you guys like to tell that seems to be the one 'truth' you won't admit. Jealousy. 'Cause you know it makes you look like the very people you criticize and we can't have that now can we? After all you are 'cut from a different cloth" right? FOH with that bullshit. You are human. Cats want things and from time to time if they see someone who has something they don't, they get in their feelings. It happens Champ. Deal with your own insecurities. It is healthy.

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